I’m Finally Quitting Tinder After Two Years

It’s about time.

I’m quitting.

Tinder no more.

It’s going down, I’m yelling Tinder.

Okay, I’ve been waiting to use that pun for a hella long time. Let me just jump right into my story.

I downloaded Tinder two or three years ago during my Disney College Program. My friend was using it, and he’d get all excited whenever he got matches, so I decided to join him in this happiness.

Getting a match is like hitting a bullseye, or striking someone out, or pulling a perfect pizza out of the oven. It just feels good.

I remember when I first matched with someone. I couldn’t believe someone that beautiful thought I was attractive. But I took it and ran with it.

After three or four nights I ran through all the girls within three miles, and I extended it to five. Then ten. Then twenty.

In other words, I was addicted to the damn thing. Little did I know the worthlessness of the app. So far I’ve only hung out with three people I met on Tinder. That’s three people in three years.

I’m averaging a whopping one person per year.

But the real reason I’m quitting Tinder isn’t because of the low turn-out, or the people on there, or anything like that.

I’m quitting because of what it’s doing to me.

It feels good to get that match. It feels nice to swipe through their pictures and see how beautiful that person is, and that they liked YOU too. It’s all really nice, but not fulfilling.

I have the same conversations with everybody. Nothing gets interesting. I hardly ever find a connection. And that’s because Tinder is like the app form of a bar. You’re crossing paths with people strictly because you both think the other one is hot.

If that’s the basis for a get-together, it’s kind of already doomed from the start.

Tinder is like that friend in your life who has a billion other friends. They tell you how much you mean to them, then you realize they’re telling everybody else that too.

The whole thing is fake.

Tinder feels fantastic, but it’s like a drunken night, or a dozen doughnuts — it’s not good for you.

It has nothing real to offer you at all.

And that’s what I realized after two years of using it.

That’s why I’m deleting it now.

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Tom Kuegler

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