What I value in a man

Melanie Wijeratna
Blue Star Ink
Published in
3 min readJun 15, 2024


It comes down to a simple thing

I was having an online chat with Caterina Marie Van Norman | Cat 🐈‍⬛ 🎤. Who has some brilliant stories, by the way. Check her out! She is inspiring! And the conversation got me thinking about value and worth. Specifically, when it comes to love.

Here’s what I value in a man.

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Listen, that pandemic was brutal for all of us. Having grown up in the eighties, it was pretty normal to joke, and be joked about. You had to have a tough skin, and take criticism on the chin. And fight back when you needed to.

All well and good.

But I am not a fighter.

I love peace and harmony. And kindness.

So I value a man who chooses to be kind, when the option is also there, to be cruel.

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I value calmness in all my walks of life now. It wasn’t always this way. I used to love drama. The highs and lows. The fights. The make up sessions.

The make up sessions…



Melanie Wijeratna
Blue Star Ink

I am a Certified Information Security Manager (CISM) and a PROSCI-certified People Change Manager. I’m also an ultra-runner and have lived and worked all over.