RELATIONSHIP-BREAKUPS-ADVICE-COPING
Dealing with Breakups
Keep your flame of love burning!
Coping with separation is probably one of the most difficult situations in life and no one wants to be in that situation. Unfortunately, this happens to many, if not all. Sometimes in our lives, the person we care about leaves us in some way.
The saddest thing is when a partner decides to leave us. The separation may have actually been more than a small thing but it would have been the “last straw” and the relationship could have been saved if both sides had changed things.
If you find yourself in this situation and you think you can get back together with your husband, then some things need to be done to make that happen. You will need to think about what your options are and then make a return plan.
Here are some things to keep in mind when retrieving your partner:
Other questions you should ask yourself are — why do you want to bring him back, do you want to come back with you, and do you really want to go back with him.
Why do you want to bring him back?
It is important to understand your motive for reuniting with your ex-boyfriend. Some reasons may be less real than others, for example, if you want to return because you do not want to be single or alone, so this is not a good reason to rebuild a relationship with him. He will set you up with an unhappy ending and if that is why you want to get back to him. Imagine what life would be like without her, how does that make you feel? Do you see yourself having children, growing old together? Start thinking about those lines and we’ll get back to this in a minute …
Do you want to get back together?
You will know if your partner just needed time to plan on a few things or if he or she doesn’t really like you anymore. Think about the relationship from his point of view and see if he thinks he would like to give the relationship another chance. Don’t just think, you will need to weigh carefully how you feel and you may need to go out and ask about it. But before you do that, make sure you have time to think about things and calm down from the breakup. Unless you are willing to work for yourself and give yourself something else, you will be wasting your time, effort, and only increasing your heartache.
Really want to get back with her?
Back to thinking about aging with her … before committing to saying, yes, you still love her and want a future together, think about a relationship for a minute.
In the first place, Why did you both break up?
Was he a good boyfriend, did he treat you with the love and respect he deserved as his wife? If it’s a small thing like forgetting or maybe a little bit of infidelity that can be worked out, but if he has big problems of trust or respect think carefully before going back to that again, even if he wants to come back with you. You may love someone but it is not really good for you, so in the end, you will be hurt in some way by this.
Getting used to it can be fun but it can also be bad for you, and in that case, it is better to minimize your losses, lament the lost relationships and move on, for you (- and possibly for unborn children). Don’t just go back with your boyfriend because you have a history, make sure that is a good story without too bad. Remember when you break up with someone your memory deceives you and helps you remember only the good things, so think about all the aspects of your relationship calmly and clearly before making any hasty decisions. The time spent doing this now is the time spent best in your future relationship.
When faced with a breakup, take time to think about the situation and how you feel about it carefully, before making the decision “I want my partner back.” Before you decide to take him back, make sure that he is as good as yours, and you will greatly improve your chances of having a happy and lasting relationship with your future.
Keep your flame of love burning!
