Your Breakup To-Do List: Part II
Your Breakup To-Do List Part II
By now we hope you have tackled those first seven to do items, because we are serving up a few more for you right now. Here is the second half of your breakup to do list-and if you follow along, you’ll be over them in no time!
8. Find a guy in your life that you trust
…And listen to him when he says your ex wasn’t good enough. He’s telling you the truth.
These guys will be painfully honest, and when they aren’t envious, they tend to be good judges of character. Boys know the game, and they can recognize it when they see it. Please listen to them when they tell you he sucks. He does. He broke your heart, and you shouldn’t let him have his cake and eat it too. Especially on Valentine’s Day. That cake is YOURS girlfriend. All. Yours.
9. Plan something in the near future that you are excited about.
ESPECIALLY for this Friday. Buy tickets to the midnight showing of Endless Love (Alex Pettyfer…absolutely), host a small party, plan a girly group dinner, or maybe even a weekend trip! Focusing on fun things not only gets you pumped, but they distract you from the not-so-fun-things. We know you feel awful/miserable/horrible/bloated/nauseous/any other negative adjective, but life can be mean…and it goes on with or without your ex. So you might as well have fun and throw your energy into planning an incredibly fun life.
10. Daydream about your future without him.
You’ve heard it: Single? Taken? No. Building your empire.
Your life has SO many possibilities when you do not need to consider someone else’s life path. That might sound selfish, but this IS the time to act for you. No need to waste your energy giving up on opportunities for someone who doesn’t really care. When you find the right guy, you can make compromises and build your life together. Now is not the time. Now is about you. Go for it girl.
11. Exercise.
It relieves stress, clears your head, and releases endorphins. If running is your absolute least favorite thing to do, try biking. Or yoga. Or swimming. Or power walking. Or barre method (ouch). IN SUMMARY if you cannot run do something else. AND BONUS- it’s good for your figure. Hottie.
12. Find out the “why it won’t work” answer.
There is ALWAYS reason why it did not work out. And sometimes…it’s really hard to see. Take this time and really think about why the relationship ended, and not just from his point of view. If you ended the relationship, this answer might not be so hard. But it’s very difficult to think about when you were on the receiving end (boo). Try asking yourself these questions…
Could you be yourself around him? What did you fight about? What were the nature of those fights? Did you enjoy being around his family and friends, and vice versa? Did you share the same goals or direction in life? We could go on and on. The key is to be aware, understand, and accept your differences in order to move forward. We know, it’s annoying. And so does he.
13. Write out the qualities you DO want in a partner.
Now hold on hold on hold on. This is NOT the ridiculous notion that if you write it, it will magically appear. This is definitely more of an exercise than a promise. Just humor us, and write it out. Funny? Check. Smarts? Check. Manners? Hopefully. Ok, now rank all of your desired qualities. All of them. What comes up first? Why?! What’s last?
You’ll find that you most likely have three categories: Nonnegotiable, negotiable, and I-just-don’t-care. For example, one of my nonnegotiable qualities is ambition. It’s top of the list. I HAVE to be with a guy who values ambition in both of us. My middle of the list negotiable? Where I live. Sure, I’ll go to Texas…California…but NOT Maine (It’s too cold and I’m a wimp). My I-just-don’t-care didn’t even make the list? Sports. Watch whatever, don’t watch whatever…I don’t care.
As you create a list of your negotiables and nonnegotiables, you learn about YOU. What you need, what you like, and where you are flexible. Plus, you’ll probably have a very clear view as to why it didn’t work out with anyone before. Previous relationships help us create our boundaries, our likes, and our dislikes. They are not to be regretted, but to be respected. You have grown from them, and your list of priorities reflects that.
Again, I’m not promising that your list exists in real life, but I am sure you can get pretty dang close. You don’t have to date everyone who shows interest. Maybe they meet your standards, maybe they don’t.
14. Breathe. Blush is here.
Ok…we’re done! Good luck, we know you can do it. This process is always temporary, and we know you will push through. As always, if you’re feeling the need for some extra support, you are always welcome to become a Blush Girl. And if you get sad, remember, Valentine’s Day can kiss your booty.
Blush you.
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Originally published at https://joinblush.com on February 11, 2014.
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