“At times I think of human relationships as something soft like sand or water, and by pouring them into particular vessels we give them shape.”
The quote is from the book “Beautiful World, Where Are You” by Sally Rooney, which is a collection of letters/emails exchanges between two friends, not to forget to mention “girl-friends”. As they say, it is one of the most complex relationships of all. And the efforts it asks for is beyond your imagination.
What we see on the surface and what’s there on the inside can be two totally different worlds, especially when the two people have completely different worlds of their own.
“Wherever I go, you are with me, and so is he, and that as long as you both live the world will be beautiful to me.”
There is enviousness, there is constant comparison, there is “why me, why not her”, there is always non-equilibrium on the justice scale when it comes to prioritizing between your love relationship and your friendship.
And in the world of social media and Instagram reels, we expect even more. We believe what we see, but what we don’t understand is that it is also the surface and not the depth that is moving in front of your eyes. We overburden each other in the name of “bff goals”.
“What if these things just rise and recede naturally, like tides, while the meaning of life remains the same always – just to live and be with other people?”
What I think should matter the most is that “be there for each other whenever in need”. You can’t always be there. Also, envy is a very normal emotion, but don’t let it overpower the love you have for each other. And be who you are, say what you feel, fight but figure out things before falling-out, and stick around.
P.S. “I only feel, rightly or wrongly, that there is something underneath everything.” ❣️
