SELF-IMPROVEMENT
Love Is Not About Finding the Right Person: It’s About Becoming the Right Person
Self-love is not something that you find — it is something that you create.
We are often mistaken about the nature of love. Some people believe love is something we find when in reality, it is something we become.
When we look for love in all the wrong places, we look for ourselves. And when we find love, it’s because we have finally found ourselves.
Many great thinkers have explored this topic throughout history. It is still an area of interest for philosophers and psychologists today.
The idea that we should love ourselves first is not a new one. It is something that many wise people have said throughout history.
The Greek philosopher Aristotle once said, “loving yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” This sentiment has been echoed by other great thinkers such as the Buddha and Lao Tzu.
Self-love is often seen as a prerequisite for healthy relationships with others. After all, how can we love someone else if we do not love ourselves?
If we put our needs last, we will never be able to commit to another person. We will always seek validation from outside sources instead of finding it within ourselves.
One of the main reasons relationships fail is that we do not love ourselves enough. We enter them, hoping the other person will fill the void inside. We expect them to complete us and make us happy. But no one can do that for us.
The only person who can make us happy is ourselves. And if we do not love ourselves, we will never be able to love another person. We will always seek something they cannot give us — something that can only be found within ourselves.
So, How Can We Become More Self-Loving?
One of the best ways is to practice mindfulness and meditation. By becoming more aware of our thoughts and feelings, we can start to accept ourselves for who we are. We can begin to see our faults and weaknesses and learn to love them instead of rejecting them.
Another way to become more self-loving is to do things that resonate with us. This could be anything from taking a yoga class to going on a nature hike. When we care for ourselves and do things that make us happy, we communicate that we love and appreciate ourselves.
Self-love is not something that you find — it is something that you create. It begins with the decision to love yourself, no matter what. From there, it is built through acts of self-care and self-compassion.
It grows stronger every time you choose to put yourself first. So, if you want to create a healthy and happy relationship with someone else, start by creating a healthy and happy relationship with yourself.
The Nature of Emotions
Our emotions come from within us. They are a part of who we are. And when we try to find love outside ourselves, we will only ever be disappointed. We will never find what we are looking for because it is not out there — it is within us.
So, to find true love, you need to start with yourself. You need to become the kind of person capable of giving and receiving love. Only then will you be able to create a healthy and happy relationship with someone else.
Remember, love is not about finding the right person — it’s about becoming the right person.”
Self-Love
Aristotle, the Buddha, and Lao Tzu are a few philosophers who have spoken about the importance of self-love. They all agree that it is essential for a happy and healthy life. But what exactly is self-love? And how can we achieve it?
Self-love is the act of caring for oneself. It is putting your needs first and ensuring that you take care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically. It is about accepting yourself for who you are — faults and all — and loving yourself unconditionally.
Self-love is often seen as selfishness. But this could not be further from the truth. When you love yourself, you are better able to love others.
When you are happy and healthy, you are better positioned to create healthy relationships with others. After all, how can we love someone else if we do not love ourselves?
If we constantly put our needs last, we will never be able to commit to another person. We will always seek validation from outside sources instead of finding it within ourselves.
How Is Self-Love Different From Being selfish?
Self-love is not selfishness. It is caring for oneself and putting one’s own needs first.
When you love yourself, you are better able to love others. You are much better positioned to create healthy relationships with others when you are happy and healthy.
So, self-love is the opposite of selfishness. It is about finding balance in your life to give and healthily receive love.
Many people see self-love as selfishness or narcissism. But this could not be further from the truth. Self-love is about accepting yourself for who you are and taking care of yourself.
Narcissism, on the other hand, is an unhealthy obsession with oneself. Narcissists are obsessed with appearance and need constant validation from others. They do not care about anyone else and are always looking for ways to take advantage of others.
Self-love is different from being selfish or narcissistic because it is based on healthily caring for oneself so you can care better for others.
What do you think is an essential thing about self-love? Do you have any tips on how to become more self-loving? Share your thoughts and advice in the comments below! Thanks for reading!
This article was first published in Beyond Two Cents.
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