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The Magic of Mixed Emotions: How They Enhance Our Lives
It’s time to rethink mixed feelings
“It appeared like their pain and suffering were combined feelings. But, feelings never did kill anyone. It was running away from feelings that lead to the absolute death of any relationship.” — A.A. Gupte
Mixed emotions are often seen as a negative thing. We’re told to “just be happy” or to “stop being so emotional.” But what if mixed emotions are a good thing? What if they enhance our lives instead of detracting from them?
While these feelings of ambivalence are uncomfortable, they can also serve us in meaningful ways.
It’s time to rethink mixed emotions. Here’s why they’re magical…
What Are Mixed Emotions?
Mixed emotions are two or more emotions that are felt at the same time. They can be opposite emotions, like happiness and sadness, or similar emotions, like happiness and excitement.
Either way, mixed emotions are normal and experienced by everyone.
We experience mixed emotions because humans have evolved to feel more than one emotion. This is because we are complex creatures with many needs and wants to be met to live healthy lives.
We need food and shelter, but we also crave love and connection. Meeting all these can be difficult, so it’s no wonder we often feel so many different feelings.
How Do Mixed Emotions Influence My Behavior?
Mixed emotions can be a difficult thing to deal with.
One of the most common mixed emotions is feeling anger and happiness. You might be angry at your boss for giving you a challenging project but happy that you were chosen for the project because it means you’re seen as competent.
Or, you might be attending a funeral for a loved one and feeling both sadness at the loss and happiness at being surrounded by people who care about you.
Mixed emotions can be confusing and overwhelming, but they can also be motivating. The key is understanding why you’re feeling mixed emotions and what you can do with those feelings.
Some mixed emotions are helpful and push us to take action. For example, the mix of fear and excitement we feel when we’re about to try something new can spur us on to take the plunge. Other times, mixed emotions can hold us back and prevent us from taking action.
It is essential to become aware of the mixed emotions you’re feeling and their effect on your behavior. Once you’re aware of them, you can start to make choices about how to deal with them.
The Benefits of Mixed Emotions
Mixed emotions offer balance and contrast in our lives. Here are three ways that mixed feelings can enhance our lives:
- They Keep Us Grounded
Mixed emotions can be a source of stability in our lives. When everything is going well, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement and forget about the other aspects of our lives that still need attention. But when we’re feeling down, those mixed emotions can give us something to hold on to — the knowledge that better times are ahead.
2. They Help Us Appreciate Life More
Mixed emotions can also help us appreciate the moments we’re feeling good. When we’re constantly happy, we often take those moments for granted. But when we’re feeling a mix of emotions, we’re more likely to savor the happy moments and appreciate them all the more.
3. They Offer Growth Opportunities
Finally, mixed emotions offer us growth opportunities. Learning to navigate and understand our different emotions can be difficult, but it’s also gratifying. As we grow and develop emotionally, we become better equipped to deal with life’s challenges.
“Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf.” — Jonatan Martensson
Difference Between Mixed Emotions and Contradictions
Mixed emotions differ from contradictory actions because they don’t necessarily cancel each other out.
For example, you might be happy that your team won the big game but sad that it’s the last game of the season. Or you might be excited about starting a new job but nervous about the unknown. This is different than believing in health and smoking cigarettes — those two things would contradict each other. Can you see the difference?
Here are some tips for dealing with mixed emotions:
- Acknowledge Them: The first step to dealing with mixed feelings is acknowledging that you’re feeling them. Don’t try to push them away or ignore them — that will only make things worse. Instead, take a moment to sit with your emotions and feel them.
- Talk About Them: Once you’ve acknowledged your mixed emotions, it’s time to discuss them. Find a trusted friend or family member to confide in, or even write about them in a journal. Talking about your emotions can help you make sense of them and start to work through them.
- Seek Professional Help If Needed: If you’re struggling to deal with mixed emotions on your own, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A coach or therapist can provide support and guidance as you work through your feelings.
Embracing Mixed Emotions
We are all emotional beings. We want to feel good and happy but also can feel sad and angry. It is not a sign of weakness to have mixed emotions. It is a sign that you are human.
It is vital to embrace the full spectrum of emotions to be healthy. Emotions are not just about feeling good or bad. You need to experience all of your feelings to give them a voice. That includes positive, negative, and mixed feelings.
Mixed emotions offer balance and contrast in our lives. They remind us of what we’re feeling and add dimension to our experiences. They also provide growth opportunities as we learn to navigate and understand the different emotions we feel.
In addition, mixed emotions can be a source of strength. They can give us something to hold on to when feeling down. And when we’re feeling good, they can help us appreciate the moment all the more.
So, can you see the magic of mixed emotions now?
They provide stability, offer growth opportunities, and help us appreciate the good moments in life. Embrace your mixed emotions and see how much richer your life will become!
Do you experience mixed emotions often? What do you do when that happens? Do you fight them or embrace them?
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