Present human’s superpower

The full truth about the dark side of your intelligence

Daria Vysheradugi
Bouncin’ and Behaving Blogs TOO
22 min readMar 28, 2024

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Throughout evolution, it’s inherent to human nature to constantly encounter a plethora of information, choices, and challenges. What do modern tendencies look like in this regard? Has our way of life changed in terms of encountering and overcoming them? It’s probable the digital globalization, that, on the one hand, elevates the threshold of our competence as potential tools of innovative mechanisms but also enhances our level of reactivity as organic catalysts of societal symbiosis.

So, have you ever wondered what exactly sets authoritative leaders apart from ordinary members in this minefield of stress? From boardrooms to bedrooms, from classrooms to chatrooms ‒ all with just one skill, stealthily settling in our living cells, firmly governing interactions, decisions, and destinies. It’s like an inner joystick that navigates through different scenarios, where true urge may emerge as the ultimate game-changer. And therefore the main criterion of present time, where IQ gets us through the door and its dark side determines whether we stay.

In this review article, let’s delve into the human’s “cheat code” of modernity ‒ its discovery, application, and improvement in terms of effective resource in the Reality Arena.

Well then… Welcome to the world of emotional intelligence!

Explanation

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage both one own emotions and the emotions of others. Developed emotional intelligence allows us to effectively cope with personal stress, demonstrate empathy, and cultivate fruitful interpersonal relationships. It also enables us to navigate various social situations and make informed decisions within them. It aids in building a strong career and achieving personal goals, defining success by the honesty of one own feelings. It serves us a helping hand in the flooded well of our biases and overthoughts. Holding desires and fears in check, it essentially grants us the ability to be independent in our own expression and, at the same time, recognized in society.

Why is emotional intelligence more important now than ever? It’s worth admitting that the exponential growth of technology has led to consequences in the form of digital pressure, monotony, marketing gimmicks, cybercrime, information overload; and yet the productivity of our emotional inclinations is just beginning to adjust to the conditions of the new era. Adding to this list the pressure of cultural vestiges, and all attempts to quickly and effectively fit into these modern terms run the risk of being crushed by our natural vulnerability. Issues like exhaustion, loneliness, eating disorders, dependencies, BPD are becoming more prevalent among the living potential. And this is precisely the burden of responsibility placed on the shoulders of the present generation, for whom flexibility and adaptability are crucial for success and well-being. Like mortar connecting the bricks of intellectual property, the emotional quotient fixes personal integrity with self-consciousness and social skills. Eventually gaining an advantage. While IQ assesses only one aspect of our successful adaptation, emotional intelligence becomes a foundational factor in all spheres of life.

Professional Area: Whether it’s in the workplace or academic setting, how effectively and resiliently we overcome deadlines and high-intensity loads, without succumbing to stress and maintaining confidence in competence, determines our EQ level.

Mental Health: Here, EQ helps define how prepared we are for our intentions. Awareness of genuine emotions, allocation of resources according to needs, management of the perspective of actions towards oneself and other archetypes, as well as knowledge of self-preservation methods are parts of wellness. Unwillingness to acknowledge one own feelings and work with them in tandem significantly limits the range of possibilities within one’s uniqueness. This, in turn, can lead to feelings of depression and unfulfillment, leaving behind a trail of other mental disorders.

Physical Health: EQ takes quite punctual measures in signaling stress in the physical body. Even the most, seemingly, innocuous trigger hotbed on one’s emotional front can incite stress hormones ‒ cortisol and adrenaline. They modulate the activity of the pain transmission system, including pain receptors and neurotransmitters, thereby causing various somatic dysfunctions. For this reason, it’s always useful to remember that our body is a reagent of our limbic system. Experiencing any form of emotional shock, it’s a plane reflection of the effect. Essentially, a message from the depths of our nervous system with an unwelcoming greeting, broadcasting an off-nominal situation. The ability to timely prevent the cause of pain, regulate its cumulativeness and competently fill the physical component of life balance indicates a high level of EQ.

Relationships: No matter one social role: corporate dissident, victim of an ex-boyfriend’s intrigue, witness of confrontation in urban transport, or opponent of another drama with a mother ‒ a high level of EQ helps better manage own emotions and respond to the emotional signals of others. Such an approach inherently promotes relationships to develop more productively, and for us, the mediators of their volatile nature, more ecologically. Emotional intelligence can build trusting and supportive connections, navigate conflicts, find constructive problem-solving paths, reach compromises, and engage with a tricky partner in full-on creativity. In short, EQ can significantly influence the quality of our lives, determining the degree of satisfaction by our social interaction.

Now that we are more familiar with examples of the impact of emotional intelligence, how do we truly become a master of it? Well, it’s commonly believed that dedication to such a superpower requires overcoming the following five levels:

  1. Self-awareness: the ability to understand one own emotions, strengths, weaknesses, values, and beliefs. It’s the ability to recognize the causes of one own reactions, to explore and analyze them deeply. This is the ability of profound self-revelation.
  2. Self-regulation: the skill of controlling one own impulses and making conscious decisions even in challenging situations.
  3. Social-awareness: understanding of emotions, needs, and motives of other people. This is empathy.
  4. Social-management: the modern art of establishing effective interactions, resolving conflicts, and maintaining healthy relationships. It’s the capstone of the success pyramid, not only opening doors for us to the authoritative world of communication and collaboration but also knocking them off their hinges by our leadership manners, ready to build a new business infrastructure in it.
  5. Motivation: this is beyond the competition’s participant ‒ our internal coach. It’s responsible for preparing our “emotional form” for all the difficulties and failures along our way. It sees meaning in our work, encourages us to be open to new experiences, and be ready to seize opportunities for growth, development, and moreover, enjoyment from the process.

Returning to the origins, it all wouldn’t sound so inspiring if we didn’t have to deal with already stressful situations. Where, mostly, we don’t want to, or even can’t, spend the extra resources to teach ourselves new things, especially in a vulnerable science like emotional intelligence. After all, we’re not just learning by rote its universal rules; in real time we present the dubious material ‒ teachings of our hearts, to a very picky audience, each member of which is a face of our traumas, triggers, distorted impressions. Let’s multiply these audiences by the number of people we interacted with throughout the day, then multiply by the entire circle of our acquaintances, classmates or colleagues, family members ‒ fairly regular spectators of our performance. Agree, it’s like we’re defending ourselves against ourselves. And perhaps, this is one of the most revolutionary challenges of our time ‒ an inner battle on a multifaceted arena. As a result, the mastery to qualitatively manage multifaceted follows only after the mastery to qualitatively manage the face of one own conscience.

Improvement Guide

Accordingly, it’s useful to solidify that emotional intelligence is not a special trait or temperament type that we are born with. It’s a skill, modifiable through observation, development, and integration throughout life, through all its scenarios and challenges. In view of that kind of dramatic schooling, I know what it’s like to lack emotional skills in various spheres of influence. Therefore, I have attempted to generalize all the experience and compile a deep guide of steps, strategies, creative advices, and practical methods that will help you boost your emotional intelligence’s mobility.

Self-awareness

  • Journaling

Start using a mood tracker to primarily understand how you tend to respond to various everyday scenarios. Do this when the emotional weather on your course is noticed to be particularly changeable; consistently open any first-hand notes and write out the heap of “hot” feelings. Expressive writing may be absolutely context-free train thoughts, without censorship or conventions, just materializing your emotional state. Write details, such as body language and facial expression, and be focused on what exactly you feel at the moment. Name the feeling. Your imagination can be reinforced by external tools, such as an emotion wheel. Name a noun for your state of mind, then name an adjective, name a verb. Compile an associative series of what happened; let it be the title of your “inspiration essay”.

Through expressive writing, you most ecologically allow your feelings to come out, creating space for attention and self-understanding. You reverse the false vector of safety from an external dependent, which not only overwhelms you but also makes powerless because you cannot change it, to yoursef, creating internal support. Reflective writing practices allow you to better realize what is happening. And if you maintain a distance from what is happening, you can more easily experience the complexities of it. By consciously giving names to your subconscious emotional reactions, you take the first step in exploring “what lies beneath” them.

I also recommend structuring this “safety book” into chapters to track emotions, triggers, and patterns of behavior more conveniently. Reflect on your current experiences and identify recurring themes for further growth. And most importantly, do not rush too far; in states of tension, it’s natural not to expect feedback or deep discussion from outside. Leverage your natural tendencies — turn to easily accessible sources, as paper can withstand it. You can elaborate on your biography as often as necessary to develop a habit of monitoring this process regularly. This will be a good starting step to get to know and protect your inner world from yourself.

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  • Body

Choosing physiotherapy as a method to enhance self-awareness, I would recommend yoga. Yoga is a well-known tool for shifting your focus from the world around you to the world within you. Spreading out a mat creates an inner space for close contact with one’s natural feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations. Releasing tension through a combination of physical postures, breathing exercises, and meditation activates the parasympathetic nervous system, the nerves in our muscles calm down, you are able to feel security and peace. In this “Rest and Digest” state, optimal conditions are created for soberly exploring “How I perceive my freedom” and “How I can access power”. And this is the moment when you launch explored patterns for further sustainability and support. And this is really how the balance of mind and body can promote being more in tune with “Who I am naturally”, even beyond a mat, in moments of discomfort and pressure.

So, as you can see, the human body in this regard is a compliant assistant to emotional intelligence.

  • Silent Retreat:

In our rapidly changing world, filled with constant noise and distractions, carving out time for silence can become a rare gift to oneself. Such retreats are typically characterized by days or even weeks when, under the cloak of an ascetic monk, you refrain from talking, immerse in complete solitude, and cognize the subtleties of your “Self” in a serene natural environment. This introspective activity provides an opportunity to delve deeply into inner thoughts, emotions, and feelings, which, in turn, can lead to insights about yourself and your place in the world.

In the absence of familiar distractions, you may find yourself facing your fears, desires, and insecurities with new clarity. By engaging in each action without words, you create a heightened awareness of the present moment. The peace and tranquility naturally alleviate your attempts to panic, as you simply don’t have access to express it. Internal agitation transforms into a more self-soothing mode of experiencing it — critical analysis here and now.

Similarly, one may notice a significant development in creative thinking. By cutting off the verbal ability of expression, our instinctive nature activates the self-preservation mode, in which you come up with new ways of self-explanation. You become more sensitive to your requests and focused on the values of those around you. Thus, by rethinking yourself you can get rid of everything useless and therefore can transform old beliefs into a new perceptual experience, to see yourself and others in it.

Self-Regulation

  • Impulse Control

When you feel that a moment of emotional arousal is coming, it’s useful to know techniques to prevent it. To begin, you need to accept previous self-analysis and explain to yourself a simple formula: “happens (A), I feel (B) I tend to (C)”. By confronting the cause of anxiety and structuring its consequences, you take your super-ego out of control. By blurring past perceptual filters, you learn to experience anxiety in a new way, creating new consequences.

Practice the mode of an Outside Observer, which helps to view events, arising emotions, and thoughts as if from the side, emotion, and estimate-free. Due to its neutrality, the observer remains objective and capable of constructively analyzing what is happening. It stands for “my trigger is not my entire ‘self’, and thereby, pausing before reacting subconsciously, it allows you to consider your response and choose a course of action that aligns with your conscious values and goals. By thus disconnecting the automation of your thinking, you learn not to identify with specific events and to remain in a mode of pure perception. You’re as if simply watching scenes from movies through the screen and then giving a review of what you saw. You’re firmly confident that these are just excerpts; the movie has a beginning and it certainly hasn’t ended yet. You calmly believe in the actor, remove the pause, and continue watching the next fragment.

Master this method of projection and choose your favorite movies!

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  • Neurographics

Unlock the brain’s mystery by visualizing a subconscious treasure. As you may know, each concept and associated action is part of a neural network, a kind of neural code, the pattern of neurons in our brain. Each of them is closely linked to the experiences and impressions we have ever received in a series of similar tasks. A kind of schema with a drawn exit route — our emotional reactions in emergencies. So, if you’ve already had enough of the stubborn self-mapping at this stage and are ready to embrace the extreme sensations of changing the route, let your kinesthetic senses take over, grab a marker, and transfer your issue onto a sheet of paper.

Tune in to the desire of your hand and simply follow that desire. Attention, you’ve transferred one of your neural codes onto paper. Now, you can work with it using neurographics: transform it, add to it, and refine it until you’re satisfied. Begin drawing a new line on the paper to represent your attitude toward the problem. At the moment when you feel the urge to change direction, intentionally go in any other direction than where your hand is pulling you. By drawing such a line, you connect unconscious impulses — the patterns of your behavior — with new, consciously made decisions. You begin to pave new tracks in your consciousness, preparing it for the idea that changes in your life are normal and they bring positivity. Add markers of hints to your neural web — shapes — an association of your positive triggers and strengths. Feel which specific positive mood can help resolve your limbic tension, create that state within yourself, and then involuntarily manifest it over the drawing. By assigning meaning to the shapes and connecting them with the drawn line, our consciousness fixes a new neural network, and thus, we form new impressions, we start to think and act differently. And believe me, using neurographics for the development of emotional intelligence is like doing a split for the brain. You’re simply stretching your emotional boundaries, making your neural muscles more flexible and adaptable to different conditions, stepping forward, and conquering new routes of the reality map.

  • New Experience

Keep extending your EI by extending your outlook. Think about new experiences you could acquire: traveling to an unfamiliar country, participating in an extreme sport, learning a new craft, conquering your fears. It’s all about your field of interest! Each new experience serves a fantastic training ground for emotional regulation, as it teaches you to navigate beyond your comfort zone. It’s a fantastic arena where your ego and primal needs blur into something akin to fear of the unknown. In such a state, you become more empathetic and concerned, more apt for transforming your perception. After all, in a new experience, you find yourself having to confront your limitations, overcome obstacles, and ultimately uncover hidden strengths within yourself. Each encountered event stimulates you to quickly analyze your reactions to them, which allows you to gain a deeper understanding of your emotional patterns, triggers, and coping mechanisms. This increases your mobility and enables you to react more effectively in future situations.

Situations can still stimulate you to look at life from different angles. These angles expose you to different cultures, ideas, and ways of thinking. You develop cross-disciplinary strategies and diversity awareness. Because, in most cases, when a new experience doesn’t seem so inspiring, it puts your communication skills at point-blank range; after all, one never knows who might be helpful in unknown surroundings. Because of such challenging conditions, your perspective of beliefs expands and it becomes easier for you to modulate your emotions in response to the experiences of others. By adapting to new experiences, the brain continues to create new neural pathways, learn new information, and create new memories.

So, my emotionally adventurous friends, the more new things in your life, the more you are.

Social-awareness

  • Blitz-Poll

Start by being curious about the well-being of those around you. Ask how a person’s day is going, what they’re thinking, and how they’re feeling about it. Practice your non-verbal expressions, showing attention and genuine interest. By sacrificing a few minutes of your time, you create an incredibly valuable trust radar with your brief interlocutor. This simple technique opens up a new perspective, where it’s surprising to notice the phenomenon of a completely different disposition of a person when they are no longer treated when needed. The phenomenon of how much each of us hides, even in the mundane aspects of life. So, erase taboos and provide sincere feedback. Empathy should form the foundation of daily interaction, but unfortunately, under the pressure of societal norms, we often tend to refrain from it even at its basest manifestations. Such a diagnostic procedure of social dynamics will allow you to better navigate interpersonal relationships and overturn the established world with new stereotypes within their operational framework.

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Source of Inspiration

Practice the Observer Mode on your favorite works of art, songs, books, and movies. Name, focus on, and observe exactly what specific emotion the artist experiences; what he does to show this feeling, what backstory is behind it, and how he dealt with it after all. What is your emotional response? Find a plot that resonates with your drama, then analyze its emotional intensity and spectacle. Express sympathy through performing creative response. That way you interpret the feeling that you are not alone in your anxiety. By cultivating creativity you not only connect conceptually but also practically with the one who makes you believe and is potentially able to understand.

Studying art helps you better understand the psychological aspects of emotional diversification, its introspective parallels, and its influence on the real world. You become more informed about the diversity of humaneness, where and how it manifests. And what powerful support it can provide if we remain open to it.

  • Podcast Therapy

Continue developing useful content by improving your active listening skills. Online platforms offer a wide range of topics to expand your boundaries of perception. Choose podcast series that cover three content directions: professional interest, area of weakness, and something new. It is recommended to seek out precisely amateur audio programs, as they vividly demonstrate the diversity of human emotions, emphasizing their self-acceptance and constructive criticism. After all, speakers are the same “big-game participants” as you, on parallel tracks with obstacles. By immersing yourself in linear storytelling, with its personal nuances, steps, tricks, and efforts, you can better understand the cause-effect relationships of firsthand experiences, thereby recognizing and empathizing with various emotional conditions. You can discover diverse voices and perspectives, gaining insight into healthy ways of presenting information. Therefore, don’t forget to pay attention to how authors verbally deliver their content. Take note of how they structure their emotional subject and let their message be captured by your attention. Track their rhetoric, vocabulary, tone, and emotional intensity curve in different contextual narratives. After listening to an episode, practice writing reviews in the comments section. Respond to the author’s story, share your vision, and engage in networking. Be interested in sharing your point of view and highlighting a new perspective from outside. This kind of “podcast therapy” approach can expand a mindset, improve interpersonal relationships, and teach, by clear example, how to express yourself harmlessly within them.

Keep digging deeper and consider recording your own podcast! Develop a strategy for your storytelling and finally let your voice be heard.

Social-Management

  • AI-Mentorship

It seems worth accepting the fact that we live in an age where cold computational machines, devoid of feelings, guide us in understanding our own emotions better. In this regard, ChatGPT offers a risk-free environment to refine emotional maturity, helping you cultivate interpersonal effectiveness. Through simulated crises and realistic scenarios, you can practice communication skills under artificially induced pressure. Build a virtual “Empathy Quest” where you will encounter various challenges such as relationship conflicts, work stress, or personal setbacks. Develop strategies for managing emotions that may arise during the role-play. Be patient and keep a positive self-talk.

On the other hand, let Artificial Intelligence assist you with instant feedback on your previously written emotional expressions. Providing personalized and responsive state assessments, lending a hand, gauging the emotional weight of your words, and suggesting beneficial exercises within your capabilities, nowadays AI can become the most unexpected coach you’ve been seeking in the burning question of “What it means to be human”. As well as generally your friend’s shoulder, mother’s wing, dad’s rare but accurate advice, digitalized weeping pillow, or punching bag. Anyway, everything you want — adaptability, realism, customization, and interactivity.”

  • Dialectic

As is known, words are powerful tools of influence. The ability to express ideas clearly and cooperate with various arguments gives us the power to control any situation. To promote this in-demand skill, I recommend to indulge in refined pleasures and gather people in “The Discussion Club”. Choose interesting topics and engage in dialective reflection.

This principle of thinking offers a systematic study of theses based on the peculiarities of their internal nature, particularly the specific conditions of their existence. By subjecting the search for their truth to open dialogue, agree to adhere to the first rule of the club: submit your thinking about the thesis to the thesis itself, rather than the thesis to your thinking. Thus, you practice treating different viewpoints constructively, accepting and balancing contradictions, thinking broadly, deductively, from the general to the particular, from the objective to the objectively subjective. This also contributes to understanding and resolving internal conflicts, as during collective reflection, you attempt to control your integrity, consider and defend many aspects of your life comprehensively. Through strategic speech, you try to defend the truth of your opinion by selecting the right arguments. Oh, it may be a fat-burning workout of your vocabulary and non-verbal etiquette. It seems you recall everything you can to deploy the value of your authentic idea most convincingly and tolerantly at the same time.

This kind of intellectual curiosity teaches you to perceive various phenomena more openly; to find their root cause and connect them in a chain of relationships. “The discussion club” certainly serves a projection of self-mastery onto the development of interpersonal communication skills. You learn not only to do everything possible to make your argument be heard but also to make yourself as hearing as possible to the arguments of many others. To collaborate to achieve common goals, striving to resolve disagreements through consideration of facts in the context of cognitive issues. Not to win an argument at any cost, as is often done in everyday life, but to find the truth together.

Engaging in such activity as a weekly tradition can dedicate us, being biologically programmed to binary thinking people, those very Jedi swords to shatter the illusion of a black-and-white world and at the core of logic and psychology, create cooperative management.

  • Voluntary

Charity work is a dynamic platform for personal development and societal transformation. By immersing yourself in volunteer activities, you gain first-hand experience, develop empathy, and establish genuine connections that extend beyond borders. Whether it’s distributing food at a local shelter or tutoring underprivileged youth, volunteering fosters a deep understanding of the human experience, as it provides an opportunity to see the world through others’ eyes. You truly put on the shoes of diverse personalities and step into their unique stories, backgrounds, and struggles. Hone your skills in creative thinking, problem-solving, leadership, communication management, and patience as you learn to cope with unconventional, unforeseen social situations against all odds and for the greater good. This is how volunteering builds an attitude of achieving positive feedback. It’s the culture of open communication and collaboration that lays the foundation for effective teamwork in building a society of mutual respect and well-being. And as you master this experience of navigating the nuances of human interaction, you become empowered agents of change. This is why social management skills are the concluding pillar of improvement of emotional intelligence — it’s not just a mindful voice, it’s an action.

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Motivation

  • Vision Board

To continue the practices of self-awareness, reflect on your goals, dreams, and aspirations in various areas of life. Begin by collecting magazines, photographs, drawings, quotes, stickers, and any other materials that represent the essence of your activities and resonate emotionally. Consider personal touches that manifest your unique traits, values, and honors. Get creative with interesting ways, techniques, and ideas to combine all these components into a meaningful visualization of your purposes, using a corkboard or canvas for its mounting.

Collaging is excellent for helping to “project” your personal beliefs and goals more effectively since you are compelled to select them more carefully. With a creative approach, it also develops flexible thinking, enabling you to see connections between different elements. Thus the perspective of achieving your goals unfolds multidimensionally. With the motor skills of our hands, we mimic their embodiment in material form and physically remember this state. Therefore, display your vision board in a prominent location; during moments of demotivation and discouragement, it can boost your optimism, reminding of who you are and where you are headed.

  • Affirmation Hint

Mobilize the reminders into routine accessibility. Digital services, in turn, can provide motivational reminders accessible beyond just the workspace. They cover a multitude of topics for improvement: becoming calmer, dealing with tough times, faith, career success, path to strong relationships, body positivity, and others. By integrating the requests to fit your needs, you can add a widget to your phone screen and receive notifications at any convenient moment for your threats. Just you and your phone, in a bubble of safety.

For a more profound effect, I recommend creating one own affirmations. Choose a free theme and jot down motivating thoughts, quotes, excerpts from books, positive associations that represent the truth of your path and your success. In moments of convenient threats, self-notifications can remind you of your inner core, its presence and indestructibility, its self-help. Each new reminder will circulate a new motivation, making you in this endless cycle of absolute a steady float. That’s it — you’re forever content.

  • Gratitude List

Summarize each day by compiling a gratitude list. This allows you to align your goals and actions with your core values, shifting your focus from what you lack to what you potentially have. By observing the progression of your steps toward your goal, acknowledging your successes, and learning lessons from your experiences, you cultivate a belief in your ability to learn and grow. This transition from fixed mindset to growth-oriented thinking encourages you to embrace challenges and persevere in the face of setbacks in pursuit of personal meaning. Focusing on the things you’re grateful for along your journey helps you recover and continue to believe in your abilities. In this way, you train your mind to perceive opportunities and chances, to stay true to yourself and your motivation.

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Conclusion

In summary, it’s evident to notice the role of self-awareness throughout all stages of emotional intelligence enhancement. Without understanding “Who I am” and “What drives me”, it’s impossible to cooperate with other people, or it will certainly not be in favor.

To have a broader understanding of these mechanisms, it’s important to realize that emotions are valid amongst themselves; they are equal children of our limbic system. As individuals, we are all born with a gift package of emotions from our common mother. Anger, sadness, joy, fear, shame — each of them is valuable and beloved. Each has its own character and purpose, and our excitement is just our reactions to them. Reactions, as ways of dealing with our innocent children, are learned through the external environment. Through a synthesis of a unique indicator and self-preservation mode. Thus, the bits of our personality are born on this reality arena. To recognize, to accept conception, to disidentify their development is a vital life-moment. And so, by consistently engaging in disciplined actions, we can reprogram our patterns. We can build a new inner shelter with the freedom and power to choose our already present responses. Therefore, it’s important to remember that improving emotional intelligence is not just a pursuit of self-improvement; it’s the art of “Enjoying” writing by own authorship.

Treat the process of self-education as self-care. Stay prospectively curious and outwardly attentive, not only from the side of seeking triggers; let your distressful heart be open to all kinds of blessings. Empathize even with what seems insignificant to you, as it may be significant for others and help them also seek, and defend their unique truth.

So don’t suppress your true feelings in return. High emotional intelligence doesn’t make you an elitist humanist, normatively correct, it doesn’t prohibit experiencing contempt, guilt, or rage; it also doesn’t turn you into an eloquent hopper for communications. On the contrary, it protects your rights against “Ironclad Execution”, and constructs the ideal version of yourself with details of honesty — fitting details.

Maintain patience and remember that this process is lifelong, and progress may not always be linear. Along with your victories and discoveries, allow failures and errors to flow through different kinds of circumstances on your way. Acknowledge that this may affect the quality of spheres of your life, change them, or for example, completely change you. But ultimately, it will make your path yours, you by you, not lost and not pressed. By elevating emotional intelligence as the superpower of this leading challenge of the present time, you handle your authentic driver effectively.

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After all… What do you feel about this article?

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