How To Choose Better Partners
People often tell you to “choose better partners,” but they never tell you how.
What are the red flags to look for? What characteristics define a good girlfriend? It’s up to you to find answers and figure out who is deserving of you.
Of course, the internet can help, but the advice you glean from there will still be on a case-by-case basis. Your standards differ from those of others, so what works for them may not work for you.
If it makes you feel better, even a dating expert like myself has also reached a point where finding a compatible partner has become a dilemma.
But, over the years, I’ve learned three things about dating that I believe you should know as well.
When choosing a better partner, follow these tips:
Don’t date someone based on potential.
I don’t like the way they act. But I know they’ll be better if I just fix a few things about them.
Are you a handyman? What makes you think you can fix someone and make them better for you?
You’re just wasting your time focusing on what ifs rather than what is. Take things as they are.
If they’re a walking red flag, don’t be delusional and tell yourself that you can change them. Love someone for who they are, not for who they could be.
Observe how they treat people in their life.
How do they treat their mother?
How do they act in front of a waiter?
Do they take care of their siblings?
These are some of the things you should keep an eye out for with your special someone.
Avoid people who act like goody-two-shoes to you but who are completely rude to others.
Look for a good person, not a nice one.
Don’t settle for a nice woman. I repeat, don’t settle for a NICE WOMAN.
A nice woman does things that make them look good, but a good woman acts on what they feel is right.
The former may also follow the crowd, whereas the latter would stand firm by her standards and moral code.
If you’re looking for a strong and lasting relationship, a good woman is the person you should be with.
Be the person you want to be with.
These tips have helped my clients find their matches, but in the end, they wouldn’t be in healthy relationships if they weren’t better partners themselves.
So before you look for a better one, internalize these tips and be the better one.
