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How to Break the Pull and Escape the Control of a Cruel Patriarch
Their love bombing also contains the leverage they need to imprison you
Patriarchs like to present themselves as the rock that shields you from the torment of the world. In truth, they’re the storm. They are the winds that batter you. They are the cold rain that soaks you to the bone.
They are the reason you have to crouch and cower. They are the cause of the burden that blinds you to the beauty of life.
They do all these things, and on top of that, they trick you into believing they are only trying to help.
My father had an addiction to authority and an allergy to accountability. I haven’t spoken to him in decades. He’s never met his grandchildren. That’s his choice.
All he needed to do was recognize that, in the long course of his life, he’s made mistakes.
I might as well have asked him to crawl across glass. Some people get to an age where it’s too late. If they’re forced to recognize the cruelty of their inherent pattern of behavior, their whole world comes crumbling down.
It’s a hard thing to be confronted with the truth that the reality of your existence is not what you want it to be. We experience this jarring moment thousands…
