If You Lack Patience, Read This
The most underrated skill
If you want to be patient, then you must embrace the pain and discomfort.
Because when we get impatient, we go through unfavorable situations — past traumas, heartaches, arguments, etc. And that can rip us apart if we don’t know how to deal with crisis.
It’s not easy. Right? That’s why only a few master the skill of being patient.
And the rest keep — shouting, crying, blaming, complaining, yelling, etc. And continue their life with messed up heads.
But if you’re showing patience, that means you’re different from others. And you’re going to accomplish great things in life.
Take a “PAUSE”
Look, it’s not the problem that you’re a little impatient. It’s ok to feel angry when you’re fucked up.
But here’s a catch: Many people tend to empty their minds on someone else or avoid the inner storm through cheap dopamine.
You don’t have to hurt anyone or distract yourself from the pain. Because in both cases you’ll find a temporary relief, but later regret. Deep down, you know you’ve made a mistake — I could have slowed down, processed things better, and then reacted.
To handle this — Take a pause, see what’s happening inside, and make the right decision.
For example, you get late for the workout session, and your friend has started lifting weights. Normally, you’ll get impatient and try to wrap up things faster. In this case, you might get injured.
So, if you pause and evaluate: you’ll find it’s ok if he has started the session. I should slow down and enjoy my session.
A little pause and evaluation help you process things better.
Control the controllable
No matter what you go through, you always have a choice to respond nicely.
For example, you’ve been fired from your job. And it’s your child's birthday, you come home, they start jumping on you — Dad we’re so happy to you see, let’s celebrate.
Inside you’re fucked up. And you have a choice to make: you either take the frustration on your child, or you can put aside everything for a while and celebrate.
One is easy, and the other is hard. Both have a different impact — Lashing out will make them upset, and enjoying birthday will your child happy.
And not to forget — responding nicely will make you stronger.
As Les Brown said:
“If You Do What is Easy Your Life Will Be Hard. But if You Do What is Hard Your Life Will Be Easy.”
Another reason to do the right thing is that you’ll able to process things better. When the moment is heated, your ability to think straight decreases and you enter into the danger zone — overthinking. So, put aside that issue for a while and focus on other activities.
You can go for a walk, talk to your friend about his recent vacation, or you can engage yourself in your favorite activities.
This will help you empty your mind, and you might end up feeling a sense of relief. And the thing that was bothering you an hour ago will seem nothing but a minor inconvenience. So, keep moving, and focus on what you can do.
Take it easy
It’s gonna rip you apart when you try to be patient.
It’s a lot of emotions at once. So, it’s ok if you aren’t able to control it the first time. I’ve been there — I’ve knocked down many times. But I always came back with a stronger mind.
So, if you make a mistake, take it easy and analyze where you fell short. And next time — dominate it.
