Moms, We Must Get Our %&*$ Together
For our kids
I read recently that it isn’t households without a father that struggle the most, it’s the ones where the mom is not mentally stable or is unhappy that contribute to our children thriving or not.
Of course, as I see it a mom can only be happy and mentally stable if she feels supported, has enough money and food to take care of her family, and is not in survival mode.
When a father is present it can help the mother and children feel secure as two people are contributing to the household income or at least sharing the responsibilities.
If a mother and father have a reactive, tumultuous relationship then this affects the children negatively. It affects both parent’s mental health and who can be present for themselves much less a child when they are stuck in trauma responses and triggers?
Of course, the happiest couples are not stuck in survival mode. Their basic needs are met and in most cases, they feel supported by family, a support group, a therapist, or friends with whom they can be honest.
Many of us have estranged relationships with our parents or have moved enough times that nobody knows our names. As a couple with children, it can be difficult to find a connection when the daily grind is extra grindy.
