My Daughter Has A Boyfriend And She Made Sure I Knew About It!
Someone needs to warn her that she is about to undergo exorcism.
As African girls, of course, we can have our girlfriends. Girlfriends are allowed to us. Boyfriends? Don’t even think about it.
If your parents think you are becoming too flashy in your dressing — shorter skirts, figure-hugging tops, and other men-seducing clothes, you are in trouble. The minor trouble is verbal abuse where they call you names and make sure you know that you are useless and stupid and God help you if you ever get pregnant.
My friend’s father’s go-to insult was:
Prostitute.
Yup. His daughter. How dare a teen girl start trying on makeup and experimenting with clothes? She must be a prostitute.
Major punishments for an African girl showing off her body to men include — being sent off to boarding school or a faraway relative’s place or, your parents will get physically abusive. You get the slaps and the cane.
My mother was never verbally abusive to her children and she made sure we knew no insults were tolerated in her home. She, however, made sure we knew abortion was a sin and we were going to carry any child born out of wedlock, to term.
Many children born to religious mothers like myself, knew the church was a familiar abode — almost like a second home. My mom, introverted and from the old school where the burdens of marriage were one’s cross to carry, often picked and dropped churches based on the level of fire (fearsome anointing) on the head of the church leader.
But this isn’t just a my mom thing. Our mothers, constrained by society to coddle the bad behaviors of their husbands and unjust treatments from in-laws, couldn’t share their pains with anyone for fear of judgment and being hushed for not being strong women, most of them got deep into religion. The only choice was God. And if God was to hear them and answer speedily, they needed church ministers who could call down fire from heaven.
So with the popularity of the Pentecostal ministries, firebrand ministers are a must.
Also giving rise to their stay is the fact that our nation has demonized elements of our culture like our idols and artifacts — making them out to be the reason Africa is in darkness and not progressing like other continents.
A child isn’t paying attention to their studies?
Call Pastor.
A child is being stubborn?
Better call Pastor.
These firebrand church leaders are needed to conduct prayers against the kingdom of darkness and all their operatives — witches and wizards and the like and to loose our children from any form of darkness and lurking evil spirits.
These ministers must be very good at conducting deliverance sessions — exorcism, for the untutored.
So how does all of this relate to my daughter’s boyfriend?
Well, you see, one of the more popular deliverance sessions conducted by our firebrand ministers is on young girls — delivering young girls from the spirit of seduction. Any desire in our girls to seduce men.
Speaking with my daughter through her babysitter’s phone, I asked if she was ready to come back home yet:
No mummy. I am far.
She told me.
Far?
I asked
Yes. I am playing with my boyfriend. I will come back soon, okay?
She did not wait for my response. The next voice was her babysitter.
My daughter is just 4 years old and does not know that a girl saying, ‘boyfriend’, is deliverance territory. But am I to give her a pass just because she is ignorant?
I mean, how else can an African parent interpret such prostitution-building words from their child?
What next? Am I to wait until she begins showing off her body in mini-skirts and nipple-hugging tops at six years old and starts flagging down men before I send her off for a deliverance session against the spirit of seduction?
Thank you very much for reading. How do you see my daughter’s blatant disregard for our way of life?
