My Perspective On Life At The Age of 30
Over the past few months I’ve been pondering on the concepts of everything a lot more. Why do we live so much in the system? From living under the concept of time to religion to education to trying to build a life going from one stage to another like everybody else.
What if we don’t need to care about all that? What if paying rent is also a part of the system? What if getting a salary is also a part of the system? What if needing money is a part of the system?
The older I get, the more I question everything that we were told we had to do since we were born. For the first 18–21 years of our lives, we had to go to school. For what? So that we could get a job that pays well when we graduate and be a slave for the rest of our lives where we have to ask for permissions in order to take some time off to go on holidays? So that we have to be stuck in the same place with the same routine?
I still remember the day my father told me when I was 10 that everything around me was made up and created by someone else and that we are living inside a system and that we do not need to live inside it — we can step outside it.
I still remember the day my father told me that it’s not about how much I earn, it’s about how much I need in life. If I learn to need less, then I won’t need to be as stressed — thus, becoming enslaved to nothing.
At the time, I didn’t really get it. I didn’t really understand what he said clearly, but now it’s loud and clear.
You do not have to get a good job with good prospects, stability, and promotional opportunities. You don’t even need to get a health insurance or any of that bullshit. You don’t ever have to work for somebody else if you don’t want to. You do not have to seek acceptance from society. You don’t need pieces of paper to be educated. You can teach yourself anything.
For the longest time, I always felt that going to school VS reading textbooks or studying on your own were essentially the same thing if you have the discipline to read and to dig deeper into the subject matter and think critically. With the power of the internet now, you can learn anything anywhere anytime. Do kids really need to go to school if they can educate themselves, live their lives, survive, and have fun?
If our self-esteem was whole and derived from within, do we need to do things that prove our success or increase our image? Isn’t life all about “living” at the end of the day? Or were we born to follow the rules, get old, and then die? Who’s to say we must do such and such in order to have a happy life?
At this point in my life, I simply have no fear and this is because I removed two fears I and many people have which are the fear of failure and the fear of being alone. I removed the fear of failure back in 2013 when I was struggling to make money and had to count every dollar I had whether I could buy a sandwich. If worse comes to worst, I’ll just go back to Thailand and grow my own plants. I won’t die. As long as my brain is still working, I can find a way to create some income. As long as my body is still working, I can find a way to put my labor to good use. I removed my fear of being alone when I learned to enjoy my own solitude. Of course, I do love my friends and enjoy spending time with them. But I realized that at the end of the day, I am with myself. I strive to be whole and happy as a complete human-being. Nothing in life lasts forever. The only relationship that is stable and long-lasting is the one you have with yourself. So don’t attach your happiness to external things — not even to your friends. Attach your own happiness to your own self and your own ability to be and stay flexible no matter what life throws at you. That way, no matter what, you will be fine because you’re equipped with the attitude to be happy with the highs and the lows, and to joyfully endure hardships as you see them as a part of your growth.
When you realize that you don’t really need anything in life but your body and mind to be healthy and in good working order, what do you need to rely on? Of course, we need to make sure we have a roof over our head and we can keep our body satisfied, but what else do we need to rely on? When we are no longer attached to things, nothing can affect us. When happiness is derived from within, nothing outside can affect us.
Do you see? Do you see that you can be the creator of your own lifestyle and that there is nothing to stop you, only yourself. And you know why they’re secrets? It’s because the world, as it stands, would stop turning if consumerism was no longer a part of the typical human make up. Schools teach us to follow the rules so that we can become good consumers and continue living within the system, paying taxes, and buying more.
Have you ever stopped and thought for a second that the same way education can empower us, it can also hinder us from thinking on our own feet? Have you ever stopped and pondered upon what you hear from the news and the media? What if you don’t need to believe anything anyone says? What if you don’t need to be caught up on the news so that you don’t feel like you’re missing out on important pieces of information? Who’s to say it’s important anyway? Will that piece of news matter to your life 10, 20, 30 years from now? Will it dramatically change your life for the better? Or is it just something that makes you feel related to others and that you’re part of the society?
I’m leaving you with a note here.
Why are we following the rules so much? So that we can have enough savings and can start really living when we are old and retired? Why do we need permissions in order to live life? Can’t we just live? At the end of the day, it depends on your values and what’s important to you.
My name is Mo Seetubtim. I’m the founder & CEO of The Happiness Planner. We design beautiful inspirational planning & journaling tools that help you find happiness from within and live a truly fulfilled life.
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