Every child can be a millionaire. Most adults can’t…

When you study millionaires, you start picking up a pattern. Naturally, I’m talking about self made millionaires, not people born with a golden spoon in their mouth. Most self made millionaires have had to go through fire and hell in order to get where they wanted. And I don’t think it has anything to do with willpower. It has to do with being childish…

Why you were born richer than you are now

There is a child that lives in all of us. How disconnected you are from that child determines how you can bend reality. A child will throw a tantrum over things he doesn’t accept. A child is obsessed with what he wants and most of the time he’s not ready to give up easily.

Think about how many times you were told not to do something and did it anyway. Children generally don’t take no for an answer. And if they do, they show their frustration. And that particular quality gets taken out of them quite fast.

Don’t get me wrong, that doesn’t mean I don’t believe you should say no to your child. I just mean that we should be careful not to kill all of their dreams. Children can become obsessed with things they want, which is why they can end up having them. If we teach them to never ask, they will default to never wanting more.

Most of your adult beliefs and attitudes are the result of how you were conditioned as a child. And don’t start blaming your parents or anybody else. That’s juts the way everybody is conditioned. People who think big are feared by society.

The essential qualities of successful people

The most common misconception about success is that it is down to willpower. Nothing could be further from the truth. If we had to rely on willpower to succeed in anything, we would fail at most things we do. Imagine you needed an iPhone for 14 days straight with no charger, would that be possible?

Well, willpower is like an iPhone, it has a very short battery life. It’s very handy when it’s available, but if you have no charger, it’s pretty much useless. Successful people are simply obsessed about what they want.

Have you ever heard that maybe you didn’t want it bad enough? And of course, you were probably pissed off when you heard that. That’s why it’s absolutely essential to assess your goals and make sure they’re true for you.

You have been taught to suppress your dreams so much that you don’t know what you want anymore. This is actually very common. A lot of people are chasing someone else’s dream, only to realise when they do reach that dream that it didn’t fulfil them as much as they thought it would.

When you’re obsessed with your dream, however, there is no stopping you. Excuses vanish completely. Your energy comes back to you and you have a reason to wake up every morning. This is what I call being obsessed. This is how a child can play a video game for hours because he just wants to win.

This is what we lose as adults because we’re told to stay small and upset as few people as possible. And of course, another quality that is worth mentioning is relentlessness. Let’s say obsession is what you have in your head, and relentlessness is what you show in the world.

Question your limits

As parents we believe we have to set the limits for our children so that they can feel secure and not hurt themselves. I still think it’s essential to do that. However, we have to be careful with the kind of limits that we impose, especially when it comes to thinking.

Most of our way of thinking is the result of the domestication of man, not reality. And if you limit your thinking, you will inevitable limit your results. Children think without limits because they have no experience of the world or not been in society long enough.

If we train ourselves to live fearlessly, without limits, we can achieve way more than we’re conditioned to think as adults. And we may realise that contrary to previous times in history, it is perfectly possible to become successful no matter what your background is.