Don’t Fall in Love With a Straight Girl

Their words will cut deeper than a knife ever could.

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They won’t understand certain things. They might not even care to. It’ll feel like there’s a wall between you — like you live in different worlds.

They’ll make your head spin with countless questions. They’ll hurt you without trying, and they won’t understand how.

They’ll hesitate when it comes to you. They won’t know how to navigate the differences between a cis-man and a transman. The shots and the surgeries will cause questions and second guessing. They won’t know how to love you.

They won’t understand the intense game of catch-up you had to play. They won’t know how you had to stare in the mirror and wish you could crawl out of your own skin. They won’t know about the countless hours you spent trying to undo a lifetime of living under society’s boot.

Don’t fall for someone on the outside of the LGBTQ community. Don’t fall for someone that’s on the outside, only getting glimpses of what we go through. If you open the door for them and they hesitate to step in, don’t freeze trying to give them time to decide. Close the door. Either they’re willing to come in and try or their not.

They’ll confuse you. You won’t understand why things have to be so difficult. You’ll start to wonder if you’re just hard to love. You’ll start to wonder if love is what all the poets describe it as. Their fear of labels and other peoples’ reactions will make you second guess yourself.

You deserve someone that’s not going to make you feel like a guinea pig. You deserve someone that’s willing to educate themselves so you don’t have to do all the teaching, someone that will take it upon themselves to learn as much as they can about you.

You deserve someone that won’t hesitate. They’ll love you as you are without wondering how it’ll make them look to society. They’ll love what makes you different. They won’t see any of it as extra baggage.

You deserve someone that will learn how to love you if they don’t already know. They’ll learn how to help you combat dysphoria. They’ll learn the signs of you becoming overwhelmed and anxious. They’ll learn when you need reassurance and won’t hesitate when to give it.

You deserve someone that won’t be afraid. They’ll hold your hand while walking down the sidewalk and in the grocery store. They’ll go to pride and be proud to be with you. They’ll stick up for you and your community without hesitating.

It won’t feel like there’s a wall. It won’t feel like you live in different worlds. They won’t feel so far away. They’ll be right there with you, ready to endure both the highs and the lows. You won’t feel like an experiment. You won’t feel hard to love at all.

You deserve all of that and more.



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