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5 Core Beliefs to Unlearn So You Can Thrive
To help you see the wood for the trees
As a writer who loves researching and a former counselor, I enjoy learning how to improve. I love gaining helpful wisdom to sow in my psyche. But recently I’ve contemplated the idea I might benefit from unlearning a few things. Self-improvement isn’t only about gathering knowledge. It also involves ditching negative data that doesn’t serve you.
To go about my task, I had to stop thinking about the many life lessons I’ve learned and contemplate core beliefs that don’t work for me. Maybe they don’t work for you, either.
We learn our beliefs as we go through life, most notably in childhood, when our minds are fresh. As kids, our brains eagerly soak up what we’re taught. We’re designed to cram in plenty of knowledge at a tender age for survival.
While it’s terrific to lap up information that helps us, taking in data that hurts us isn’t so great. The problem is that we indiscriminately adopt new knowledge before we’re mature enough to discern whether it’s true.
Often, our sources of knowledge aren’t good. It’s easy to absorb our parents’ misguided beliefs. Other influences come from our environments, cultures, and backgrounds.