Deborah Goodman, BrightSky Member talks about what Purpose means to her
When we asked our members recently to send us their stories on living their purpose we got a lovely reply from Massage Therapist Deborah Goodman. She shared her story of finding her purpose and turning it into what she makes a living from and we thought we’d share it with you, the BrightSky community. We hope it brings you cheer and inspiration :)
It is interesting for me to think about this subject of Purpose, so thank you for inviting us to talk about this.
Looking back at my younger years, I guess that my purpose was just to get through each day as best I could.
I never knew what my real purpose was until I was 37 years old.
I drifted into the corporate world when I left school at 16 and I never really loved what I was doing, although I enjoyed the friendships and the social side of it all.
When I was 37 years old I went on holiday to Costa Rica with some friends. My father and aunt had both suffered and died of Huntington’s disease (HD), which is a hereditary and incurable degenerative condition, and by then two of my brothers had been diagnosed with the same disease. I had grown up with so much sadness and suffering in my family and not long after I arrived in Costa Rica for a much-needed amazing adventure…. I had a massive meltdown.
It was because of this meltdown that I decided to have a massage. I’d never had a massage before but I would try anything just to feel better.
I had the massage and it felt AMAZING. Nurturing, healing and loving. The therapist also used her tuning forks to work on my body and when she laid her hands on me to complete the session, something incredible happened. I felt my energetic and emotional blocks shifting and releasing. At that time, I knew nothing about our energetic body, nothing about any of the alternative types of therapies and was spiritually closed down.
What I felt then, I could see in my minds’ eye. I saw the energy moving inside of me. Rushing though my body. It was at that very moment that I instinctively knew that I had NOT inherited the faulty HD gene from my father and that I had my life ahead of me. It was at that moment I knew what I wanted to do. For the first time ever, I saw a future and I had a PURPOSE — I knew what I wanted to do with my life.
In the following days and weeks my healing crises got stronger. I didn’t know which way to turn for help, but I did know that I wanted to learn body massage and become a therapist. I wanted to help others and so I booked up my first massage course and I never looked back. I studied reflexology, infant massage, aromatherapy, reiki and alongside that, I undertook my own healing journey. I studied the healing power of the mind in order to turn my negative mindset into a more positive one and I found different modalities of natural healing and emotional release work to help myself — to enable me to help others. I guess then, that my PURPOSE was not only to help others to heal, but to also help myself to heal.
I also started to raise money for the Huntington’s Disease Association, undertaking treks on the Great Wall of China, Kilimanjaro and the Inca Trail as well as organising fundraising events. I wanted to raise money to help other families to get the support they so desperately needed.
I trusted in the Universe and I followed its callings. Once I had this clear PURPOSE to help others, the momentum just kept going. I published a book about my struggles and my healing journey and was then invited to give talks at a college and at a school, as well as at various fundraising events. Once I had that clear PURPOSE, everything fell into place.
I had my insecurities, and that little doubting voice inside me, but I ignored them. It wasn’t always easy, but I always persevered because I had a vision. I entered a completely different world to that which I had known before and it felt like home to me.
My life’s struggles have been a blessing to me. The memories are still strong in my mind.
However, the memories of the struggles I went through to build up my client-base have faded away because I never lost sight of the end goal. I have learned to ‘step out of the way’ when I’m with a client and I do feel that this is a gift that others feel when I am holding them in a healing space.
I always knew from the moment I left the corporate world, that I would never go back to that life and that I will always do some kind of healing work.
Because of the situation this year — I have to admit — I have lost a lot of that sense of purpose. Without that purpose, without my clients being able to come for their treatments, I have felt quite lost. This situation has highlighted just how important having that purpose is to me.
When that is taken away, we have to adapt. We have to adjust. This year has taught me that adapting and adjusting is no longer my strong point. I have become too comfortable and I don’t like this curve-ball one little bit!
However, as my friend Leon has been saying to me lately, these things do not happen TO us, they happen FOR us, and so I just need to understand what my next PURPOSE on this amazing journey of life is to be! I know it will always be helping others, but I have a feeling that the ‘how’ is going to change somewhat.
It’s as exciting as I want it to be and I am opening up to the possibilities of what’s to come.