What is Mindfulness
If meditation is reaching a point when you have no thoughts, mindfulness is having one thought at a time. Furthermore, it is the ability to choose that one thought wisely and move to the next with intention and fluidity. As a meditation and mindfulness instructor I use one metaphor (stolen straight from the ancient Taoist text: The Toa Te Ching) to explain this to my students: the metaphor of the bowl.
The usefulness of a bowl comes not from its material but rather the empty space it creates and its ability to hold things. A bowl is not the things that it holds. Similarly we are not our minds nor our thoughts but rather we are the ability to create and choose thoughts.
In certain regions in China, they use two bowls during a meal. One bowl is for the item you are currently eating. The second bowl is to discard waste and that which you no longer want to eat. In the first bowl they eat only one thing at a time before they discard it. At the beginning of a meal and at the end they always wash the bowl.
This is how we should treat our mind. Choose one thought at a time (mindfulness). Discard that thought once it is finished. Discard thoughts that do not serve us. On a regular basis clear the mind completely(meditation).
Often we create a habit of filling your bowl with as much as possible for the fear that you might miss out. But the reality is that if our bowl becomes too full we might miss out on the next dish that comes around during a meal, things might spill out of our bowl creating a mess or the flavors of the food might influence one another ruining the taste. If you’re are not wise about what you put in your bowl you might end up with something you don’t wish to eat and miss out on the thing you do.
We always have a choice to choose positive, productive thought over negative ones. We always have the choice to place our attention on one thought at a time. It is just a matter of creating the habit. Just as it takes time to create an eating habit, so too it take time to create habits of the mind. Fortunately, as most good habits, the benefits in the long run almost always outweigh the short term struggle. I believe we should care as much about our habits of the mind as we do in our eating habits