The 3 Tricks You Must Know To Become Sherlock Holmes
Despite being a fictional character, we can agree that Sherlock Holmes masters the skill of reading people’s body language. These skills are not only useful if you are a detective or in a constant confrontation with mystery. Being able to read someone else’s interest, comfort and emotions are valuable abilities in your everyday life.
1. Pay attention to where they are looking at
As a general rule of thumb, if someone is interested in what you are saying they will look at you. Otherwise, their gaze will be wandering around the room. This wouldn’t apply if you are talking about someone or something else in your environment. In this case, it is most likely that you both will stare at this thing or person.
2. Where are their feet pointing at?
Feet?! What?
Yes! Feet!
People don’t tend to pay attention to feet that much so it’s not something they control easily when it comes to hiding what they are actually thinking or feeling.
Normally, people’s feet will point towards what they are interested in.
Here are two simple examples:
- Someone wants to leave the room = Their feet will point at the door
- Someone is interested in the person talking = Their feet will point at them
3. Pay attention to their discomfort
You can suspect someone is feeling uncomfortable if they are looking down, have an unrelaxed position and have their arms crossed among other things. So if you notice any of these, try to change the topic and see if they can relax more.
Other things that might indicate someone is not feeling happy about the topic is their microexpressions on their faces, hard swallows and changes in their breathing.
Microexpressions are fast expressions in our faces that can only be noticed when paying close attention and that require intensive training to be able to identify them. However, you can notice a few. Microexpressions happen when someone is trying to repress an emotion but their face muscles don’t allow them to do so. So in this millisecond, their face will indicate what they might be feeling.
Hard swallows tend to happen when someone wants to say something but their trying to suppress it. So they swallow their words. This might be the truth about something, feelings of fear or a deep emotion that they don’t want to let out.
When someone’s breath changes it means that their heart started bumping differently. For instances, when you under a situation of fear, your heart will beat faster, making you breathe faster. This will also apply when you are feeling angry. Essentially, is your body letting you know it is ready to defend itself.
There are plenty of books out there that would help you to boost these skills.
Here’s a personal favourite: Captivate by Vanessa Van Edwards.
If you’re not into reading or audiobooks, that’s OK. You can easily find her on YouTube and still taking advantage of the knowledge she shares.
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