Lessons from 100 Days of Happiness
If someone were to ask you about your happiest moment yesterday, would you have an answer?
How about your happiest moment of 3 months ago?
As of today, I’ve got an answer for the last hundred days – and a new perspective on gratitude, thanks to the 100 Happy Days project.
The challenge couldn’t be simpler: Take a photo of just one thing that makes you happy each day for 100 days.
On July 15, I began chronicling my moments of happy on Instagram. I knew a bit of what was in store since I first came to know the challenge though my teammate Rodolphe’s excellent chronicle of it.
But along the way, I made a few unexpected discoveries about happiness and gratitude.
My happiness made others happy!
I had anticipated that my 100 happy days photos would potentially bore most of my small group of followers and possibly even annoy them a bit. But as it turns out, quite the opposite was true.
I heard from a number of friends who were following along with my adventures, some of whom even began their own challenges after witnessing mine.
Lots of friends were curious about the photos and asked me thoughtful questions about the challenge. And I heard way more often than I had expected that my followers were actually looking forward to my daily “happy photo.”
I began this challenge as a way to focus on my own gratitude, but to think that I might have brought even a fraction of what I experienced to others in my life feels really great.
It doesn’t take much to make me happy
I had some spectacularly awesome days throughout the 3-month span of 100 Happy Days: I ran around New York City with my awesome coworkers! I jumped off a waterfall with friends! I rode a 4-wheeler with my 93-year-old grandfather!
And I also had some super regular days, where I worked hard at Buffer and pet my dog and hung out with my husband and maybe went to the grocery store and that was pretty much it.
It’s easy to be grateful on days you’re doing something really cool. Who wouldn’t be?
The real trick of practicing happiness seems to be find what’s beautiful and special and worth being grateful for on those other days, the days where you’re just cooking dinner or doing laundry or taking a walk.
On those days, of which there were many, it was a soul-nurturing delight to find hidden wells of joy in a conversation with a friend, a good book, or a good glass of wine.
All the days of our life are worthwhile ones, and none of us has time to waste taking any for granted. But seizing and appreciating the day doesn’t mean you have to go skydiving or BASE jumping. It can mean appreciating the small, meaningful moments, too.
More motivation, more happiness
On the other side of the spectrum, having the 100 Happy Days challenge on my mind sometimes led me to seek out fun deeds or new activities that I might have put off or not considered at all otherwise.
During those moments, I thought about a concept we talk about at Buffer a lot: avoiding the deferred life.
The time might never be perfectly right for all the things you want to do. You might not ever have enough money, or a perfectly secure plan. But instead of waiting for a moment that might never arrive, why not make something happen now, while you can?
My friend Mari (an awe-inspiring and gratitude-filled entrepreneur) took on the challenge alongside me, and when I asked her about the experience she had a similar finding.
“I think mostly it was about the fact that you found joy in even the most seemingly insignificant moments,” she said. “On the flip side, I felt like I also created experiences to document something that made me happy that day, so it forced me to focus on intentional happiness.”
The combination of those two elements – seeking happiness in small moments and creating more opportunity for happiness every day – made for a deep awareness that I hope to extend far beyond 100 days.
The photos, by the numbers
Over the course of the 100 days, I took:
15.5 pictures of dogs (The .5 was a dog doormat)
13 pictures of family/friends
12 pictures of food/beverages
11 pictures of plants
11 pictures on or of water (beach, waterfall, lake)
8 pictures that include my husband
4 pictures that include my best friend, Knight
4 pictures that include me
Pictures of 4 different cities: Nashville, TN; Memphis, TN; New York, NY and Portland, ME
Are you up for the challenge?
A crazy stat from 100 Happy Days: 71% of those who try the challenge don’t complete it, citing lack of time as the main reason.
Though I did have to make up a few lost days here and there, I’m grateful to have had the chance to complete the challenge and build a stronger habit of gratitude everyday. In fact, I think it might actually be hard to stop now!
Could it be the right challenge for you? Sign up and give it a try.