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Radical Self-Love: The Revolution That Starts Within
Why loving yourself isn’t selfish — it’s the secret to transforming your whole life.
For most of my life, and some even to this day, I measured my worth by other people’s opinions. I thrived on compliments and went down anxiety spirals when I thought people didn’t like me.
I’d replay conversations in my head, wondering if I said the “right” thing or if it was too much, too little, too anything.
The fear of being seen — fully and authentically, even if I’m still discovering what it means — is holding me back. I see it and I feel it, and I’ve been fighting back and learning to love myself more and more.
Sometimes I was so busy managing others’ expectations and thoughts about me that I forgot how to be me. And sometimes, I felt like I had to revert to an “older” version of myself to fit in. But that’s just a sign that I’ve outgrown people, places, and habits. And that’s okay.
What I had to realize is that self-love isn’t about convincing other people to like me. It’s about seeing it myself and knowing my worth. And it’s not selfish to put myself first.
It’s about becoming me, messily, fully, and authentically. And it’s changing everything.
