These 11 political friendships proved party lines don’t have to divide Americans
Party affiliation hasn’t kept some political warriors with maintaining lasting friendships with members of the opposite party.
By Grace Panetta
The members of the 117th Congress are currently in the thick of negotiating another COVID-19 relief bill after years of historically pernicious partisan gridlock.
New President Joe Biden too is now tasked with navigating a divided Senate with 50 Democrats and 50 Republicans and a House narrowly controlled by Democrats as Washington confronts historic crises.
In recent decades, however, many politicians and political figures of opposite parties have put been able to put aside their ideological differences to forge working partnerships and friendships.
At Republican Senator John McCain’s August 2018 memorial services, for example, several Democratic politicians including President Barack Obama, former Senator John Kerry, and former Vice President Joe Biden gave eulogies reflecting on their close professional and personal relationships with McCain.
Here are 11 of the most famous political friendships that crossed party lines:
President Ronald Reagan and House Speaker Tip O’Neill
The former Republican president and Democratic house speaker from Massachusetts didn’t always see eye-to-eye on fundamental political questions, but respected each other as public servants and worked across the aisle to find common ground.
“Historic tax reforms, seven tax increases, a strong united front that brought down the Soviet Union — all came of a commitment to find common ground,” O’Neill’s son Thomas O’Neill wrote in the New York Times in 2012.
“While neither man embraced the other’s worldview, each respected the other’s right to hold it. Each respected the other as a man.”
When Reagan survived an assassination attempt in 1981, O’Neill went to the hospital to visit the president and pray at his bedside. And after O’Neill’s death, Reagan headlined fundraisers to raise the money to build the O’Neill Library at Boston College, O’Neill’s alma mater.
Source: New York Times
John Boehner and Barack Obama
The former Democratic president and Republican house speaker from Ohio often clashed on policy — famously so when the 2011 “grand bargain” budget deal fell apart — but still maintained a respectful working relationship while Boehner was speaker.
The two would famously discuss strategy and hash out disagreements in the Rose Garden outside the White House, during which Boehner would smoke cigarettes and Obama, a former smoker, would chew nicotine gum.
Boehner even recalled having to “sneak in” into the White House to meet with Obama to avoid the press from “going crazy.”
“We were having a nice conversation and finally the president says, ‘Boehner, man, I’m going to miss you,” Boehner said of Obama’s phone call to him after he retired as Speaker of the House in 2015.
Boehner even made a cameo in a comedic video Obama showed at the 2016 White House Correspondents Dinner during which they joked around and watched “Toy Story.”
“I understand him, he understands me, and while we had big disagreements, we were able to get an awful lot of things done, somehow. Don’t ask me how,” he added.
Sources: Cleveland.com, Business Insider, Washington Post, Vox
Senator John Kerry and Senator John McCain
John Kerry and John McCain shared the distinct path of serving in the Vietnam War to being elected to the US Senate.
McCain famously spent six years as a prisoner of war in Hanoi, while Kerry — a former Navy officer — led a signature protest in which a thousand Vietnam veterans tossed medals and ribbons won in the war over a barricade into the vicinity of the US Capitol.
While McCain strongly disagreed with Kerry’s protest at the time, the two ended up working together on Vietnam veterans issues while serving on the former select Senate committee on POW/MIA soldiers.
“We got to know each other and began to work together on some things, particularly on the normalization and lifting of the embargo with Vietnam. And John was willing to tackle things that a lot of other people weren’t willing to tackle, so we found some common ground in strange places,” Kerry told NPR in 2017.
Sources: The New Yorker, NPR
Bill Clinton and both Bush presidents, George H.W. Bush and George W. Bush
During the 1990s, President Bill Clinton clashed with his both his predecessor and the man who would replace him.
But during the 21st century, Clinton’s relationship with the Bushes became decidedly more amicable, with all three former Presidents expressing newfound respect and admiration for each other.
They’ve gotten so close that George W. now refers to Clinton as his “brother with a different mother,” and his daughter Jenna calls Clinton “Uncle Bill.”
Clinton and George H.W. Bush traveled together to help with relief efforts after a tsunami struck Southeast Asia and then later to the site of Hurricane Katrina, becoming fast friends along the way.
Source: The Washington Post
Supreme Court Justices Ruth Bader Ginsburg and Antonin Scalia
These two Supreme Court Justices had markedly different judicial philosophies and ways of interpreting the US Constitution. Still, they maintained a close friendship for decades, sharing a home state of New York and a passion for opera, even spending holidays with each other’s families before Scalia’s 2016 death.
“If you can’t disagree ardently with your colleagues about some issues of law and yet personally still be friends, get another job, for Pete’s sake,” Scalia once said of his friendships with colleagues.
Bader Ginsburg reflected in an interview with The Washington Post on how much she appreciated the intellectual rigor and healthy clash of ideas in their friendship.
“As annoyed as you might be about his zinging dissent, he’s so utterly charming, so amusing, so sometimes outrageous, you can’t help but say, ‘I’m glad that he’s my friend or he’s my colleague,’” she said.
Sources: The Washington Post
Senator Orrin Hatch and Senator Ted Kennedy
“I have to say that we became very dear friends. That doesn’t mean we didn’t fight each other. We fought each other like tooth and tongue but afterwards, we’d put our arms around each other and laugh about it,” Hatch told NPR in 2009 after Kennedy’s death.
“And we passed a lot of very important legislation together, and I will greatly miss him,” he added.
Hatch recounted one instance where Kennedy tried to convince Hatch to agree with him on a provision of a bill by having his chief of staff “serenade” Hatch, a songwriter, with a song he had written.
Hatch also wrote a song dedicated to Kennedy, which he titled “Headed Home,” when Kennedy was diagnosed with cancer.
Source: NPR
Former GOP Rep. Mark Meadows and Democrats Elijah Cummings and Pramilya Jayapal
Former Republican Rep. Mark Meadows was a thorn in the side of his own party, but forged some unlikely friendships with liberal Democrats across the aisle.
Meadows was elected as part of the Tea Party movement and was a key member of the conservative Freedom Caucus before serving as former President Donald Trump’s chief of staff.
But for years, he had an important friendship with Rep. Elijah Cummings, a Democrat representing Baltimore who was a leading voice on racial justice and was known as the “Conscience of Congress.”
“He’s a good friend. We disagree on 95 percent of the issues, but, okay, we’re able to talk,” Cummings told the Washington Post in 2019. “He’s cordial, we’re able to negotiate the things that we are able to agree on. And I like him.”
Towards the end of Cummings’ life, he and Meadows served together on the House Oversight Committee. And after Cummings died in late 2019, Meadows gave an emotional eulogy to his “dear friend.”
“So Elijah has left his tent to go to a mansion, a better place. Perhaps this place and this country would be better served with a few more unexpected friendships. I know I’ve been blessed by one,” Meadows said.
Meadows also reached across the aisle to connect with Democratic Rep. Pramila Jayapal, a Democrat from Washington and a leader of the Congressional Progressive Caucus, in 2019 when progressive Democrats were in a budget fight with House Democratic leadership.
Buzzfeed News reported that Meadows, drawing on his significant experience facing off with his own party leaders in the Freedom Caucus in the mid-2010s, reached across the aisle to give Jayapal some strategic advice.
“He came up to me and he was like, ‘I need to tell you all the experiences of the Freedom Caucus so you don’t get screwed by your caucus the same way we were screwed by ours,’” Japayal told Buzzfeed.
Sources: Washington Post, Buzzfeed News, NPR
President Joe Biden and Senator John McCain
“My name’s Joe Biden. I’m a Democrat. And I loved John McCain,” Biden said at the beginning of his emotional eulogy of John McCain during his August memorial service.
“We’d talk about family,” Biden remembered of his friendship with McCain. “We’d talk about politics. We’d talk about international relations. We’d talk about promise — the promise of America.”
While from different political parties, McCain and Biden held a famously close friendship over the decades they served in Congress together, and lasted when they ran on opposing presidential tickets in 2008.
“Above all, we understood the same thing: All politics is personal,” Biden said. “It’s all about trust. I trusted John with my life, and I would, and I think he would trust me with his.”
Sources: Business Insider, NBC
Joe Biden and Sen. Mitch McConnell
Biden and McConnell, creatures of the Senate, served in the chamber together for 24 years and learned to work with each other as they both ascended to senior positions — despite their very different stances on big issues and diverging political styles.
And in the Obama administration, Biden served as a crucial bridge between the White House and Capitol Hill given his decades of experience dealing with key figures in the Senate including McConnell.
McConnell made no secret of his distaste for working with Obama in his 2016 memoir, and lent some rare praise to Biden, as Politico’s Alex Thompson noted in an extensive deep-dive of their relationship.
“I don’t always agree with him, but I do trust him implicitly. He doesn’t break his word,” McConnell said of Biden on the Senate floor in December 2016. “He doesn’t waste time telling me why I’m wrong. He gets down to brass tacks and keeps sight of the stakes.”
Source: Politico
President Richard Nixon and baseball player Jackie Robinson
While the former Republican president and baseball legend who played a key role in integrating major league baseball seem like an especially unlikely pair, Robinson and Nixon were allied in the early 1960s.
Robinson endorsed Nixon’s 1960 campaign for president over Democratic rival John F. Kennedy, decrying Kennedy’s commitment to civil rights as “insincere,” and accompanying Nixon at campaign stops around the country.
Robinson later went on to also support the campaign of Republican David Rockefeller for governor of New York, but quickly changed his tune when the Republican Party re-aligned to be more opposed to civil rights measures than the Democratic Party.
Robinson was reportedly “furious” over Nixon’s support of anti-civil rights senator Strom Thurman, and complained in a letter just weeks before his 1972 death that Nixon was “polarizing the country.”
German Chancellor Angela Merkel and former French president Nicholas Sarkozy
Politicians outside the US too have forged alliance across political lines.
Dubbed “Europe’s odd couple” and given the moniker “Merkozy,” the two European leaders exemplified very different political styles and clashed on occasion, but still maintained a close working partnership and friendship.
Sarkozy traveled to Germany to support Merkel in the 2009 legislative elections, and Merkel returned the favor and helped campaign for Sarkozy’s presidential bid in 2012, which he ultimately lost.
“We are friends, we are allies, we understand each other better and better,” Sarkozy said of Merkel in 2012.
“When she speaks, she speaks for the whole of Germany, not just those of the left or the right; and it is the same when I speak: I speak for France,” he added. “People who don’t understand this don’t know us very well: our countries are more important than we are.”
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