RELATIONSHIPS
Your Relationship Will Definitely End in One of These Ways — Choose Which
Your happiness, in and out of your relationships, is literally a matter of life and death. Choose wisely.
I’m sorry to be the one to break it to you, but your relationship is going to end. No matter how many years you’ve been together or how many children you have, whether you’re married, engaged, or just consciously coupled, your relationship as you know it will cease to exist. So, take a good look at your partner, breathe deeply, and settle into the fact that one day, you won’t be with this person anymore or ever again.
Then, decide how you want it to end.
By now, you might be shaking your head in defiant disbelief, convinced that you and your partner are built to withstand the test of time. You might be one of those people who believes in forever, but let me ask you this — if time is infinite, when the fuck does forever happen?
In long-term relationships, most of us hang our hats on the concept of forever, which in itself is not a measure of time and no one has ever seen. It’s a term we’ve heard in songs and seen in movies our entire lives, never understanding what it means. In actuality, we’re saying we want to be with our person for the rest of our lives, and this brings me to my point.
Our relationships are going to end in one of two ways. We either have to break up with our partners or die with them.
Now, take another look at your person and your relationship. Think about all the ways it works, the happy times you’ve had, and how much you’ve grown as an individual and a couple during your time together. Then, think about how it doesn’t work, the awful times, and how stuck you have felt as an individual and a couple these past years. Weigh the good against the bad and be honest about which is heavier. Be truthful with yourself about how you feel more often than not. Are you happy? Are you really happy?
Do you want to die with this person?
Is this the last person you want to be with until you leave this earth? Is this all you want to experience? Is this the way you want to feel up until you take your last breath?
If you can answer an unequivocal yes to these questions and your partner can, too, then you’ve just decided how your want your relationship to end. Death.
🎉 Congratulations! I hope you get what you want. 🎉
But, if you’ve taken a harder, more truthful look at your life and silently wished for a different one before it’s too late, it’s time to make some changes. If you’re sick of your partner and your relationship with them, if it no longer brings you joy or serves your higher self, and if you're not willing to continue settling for the rest of your natural life, you have to break up with your person.
Breathe.
This is literally your only other option. Breakups are rarely simple or easy, but unless you want to be unhappy for many more years and then die, you’ve got to start digging your way out, Shawshank style.
They say life is short. If that’s true, is this how you want to spend your last days? And if life is long, is this how you want to spend the next fifty years?
Please, don’t cling to a mistake just because you spent a long time making it, and don’t live the same year seventy-five times and call it a life, especially if you’re unhappy. Your happiness, in and out of your relationships, is literally a matter of life and death.
Choose wisely.
