What Does It Mean to Be Centred?

Being centred

Alex Mathers
Jan 13 · 3 min read

What does that mean to you?

Is this a state of being — reserved only for orange-robed monks living in mountain-top monasteries?

Is being centred only for ‘spiritual’ people?

Does it mean that you become soft-voiced, and limp-wristed, with a continual glazed look in your eyes?

Do you need to be passive and super-chill to be centred?

Always on a journey, never getting to anything?

Are only hippies centred?

Do you need to go full vegan to be a centred person?

I’ve spent a lot of my life in anxiety. Fidgety. Worried. In my thoughts.

And I will likely spend the rest of my life experiencing these things…

But these moments will diminish…

The more I remain ‘centred.’

Being centred is a momentary thing; as is being fidgety and distracted.

It is fleeting. It doesn’t define who we are — it defines our behaviour in a second.

Being ‘centred’ is a way of being that we can cultivate — leaning more and more into it so that it becomes an increasingly ubiquitous feature of our experience.

I am centred in some moments, and not in others. But I am becoming more centred overall.

The less centred we are, the more we are swayed by life’s frenzy, and the more we struggle.

The more I move to be centred, the more exhilarating of an adventure life becomes.

I am less attached to the ‘significance’ of my thoughts and feelings.

I see these as part of the human condition — I don’t feel the need to stew, figure it all out, or panic when a feeling or a scary thought arises.

I allow them to reveal themselves like passing sign-posts, before floating by.

Just because I have a thought doesn’t mean I should do anything with it. I can choose in an instant, and let go.

I am free.

I know that I am the observer of these thoughts; I am not my thoughts.

As such, I am connected to the spirit that runs through all things, behind labels. It’s fun to know that I can connect with this energy, rather than the power of fear.

I am conscious, not self-conscious. I am ok to relinquish those things about me that I was hiding.

Triggers are opportunities to grow, not to defend myself.

I am connected, instead of separate.

My energy is less scattered because I am not a slave to my emotions and my ruminations; even my visions.

I go slow to notice things, and because I move slow, the world slows to meet me, and it all seems rather easy. Because I am more conscious and engaged, I can then speed up.

I sense the gaps in things. The silence behind the noise. The meaning behind the words. The surface-level intricacies and details too.

I am better able to ease into not knowing.

I live in awareness, and I know that awareness is all I need to be my most optimal at this moment.

I have accepted that the past could not have happened any other way.

I set goals and create plans that I use to inform an excited energy in me right now. These visions speak to my potential. But I don’t tie my egoic sense of self-worth to their attainment.

What happens happens, and I keep moving.

I relax into the conversation because I no longer try to impress or predict. I am given what I need in the gaps created by the stillness of thought.

Any temptation to ruminate is soon discharged by redirecting attention to what is right in front of me.

I know that if I can become centred with the small things, I can become centred with the big things.

Everything is an opportunity to play the game of returning to consciousness.

To being alive.

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How to free your mind and live your best life. Practical advice on productivity, mindfulness & meditation, self-improvement, and nootropics.

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