Let’s Not Tune-In to Mixed Signals

Most of us have experienced mixed signals to a certain extent. Whether we’ve given mixed signals or received them, we all know what it’s like to date that “hot then cold”, “yes then no”, “in then out” kinda person. The kind of person that puts our heart on pause and has us so mixed up that we are left wondering if we’re crazy in love or being driven crazy by love…

And let me tell you, there’s nothing worst than being driven crazy by love…

In the dating game, we find ourselves in these situations more often than most. We don’t know if that guy who left us on read yesterday but wants to hang today is really into us. And what the heck are you supposed to make of the girl that was seemingly the queen of your heart yesterday, but is acting like the queen of ice today.

I’ve been there. You’ve been there. We’ve all been there.

And it leaves us with the lingering question….

Are they into us or not? And how do we turn this mixed signal into a stable connection? I’m askin’ for a friend…

Okay, first things first…

I know I proposed the question — but before we do some good ol’ answer seachin’ I think we need to revise. Because even better than the “how” question is the “why”question.

So here’s the question we should be askin’…

Why do we want to turn a mixed signal into a stable connection?

Now if you’re like me, when you begin to receive mixed signals from someone you are dating or crushing on, your immediate reaction is going to be to enter the persuasion game. You are going to try to persuade or convince them of your worth because that must certainly be the problem. We think, that if we enter this persuasion game that they will stop sending mixed signals when they begin to see “just how good you would be with them.”

But here’s the thing…

We shouldn’t want a stable connection from someone who treats us like an option when we treat them like a priority. Let’s face it there’s always going to be someone who can’t see your worth. And if they can’t, that’s not your problem. The only time it’s your problem, is if the person that can’t see your worth is you.

So that brings me to this…

Imagine, you’re listening to the radio and having a one-man concert in your car. You’re mid-solo when all of the sudden, you drive through an area that disrupts the radio signal giving the song an unfavorable “static-y” remix. Now, I’d like to think most of us would just switch the channel to a more stable connection. And that’s exactly what we should do in our love life.

So this is where I’m getting at….

Let’s not tune-in to mixed signals. It’s time to turn that static-y mixed signal off and look for another “station” with a stable connection. Trust me, the only thing that is going to come from dating someone that runs hot and cold is a freezer burn. Whatcha think? I’m asking for a friend.