My nipples were inverted when I was born, which concerned my mother. She worried that my nipples would never turn inside out and that my breasts would not be “normal.”
The doctor told her that there was nothing that could be done. He said that my nipples may correct themselves with age… or not.
I remember my budding breasts in primary school, with the inverted nipples. I recognized that they looked different than my older sister’s. I noticed that my mother’s nipples were pointed, while mine were sunken. But I never once thought that there was something wrong with my nipples, they were just different.
I am not sure when my nipples decided to peek out, maybe as I entered high school. I do remember the sensation of my nipples hardening as a young woman, whenever I was cold.
Years later, while I was pregnant with my daughter, I looked forward to breastfeeding. I imagined my daughter nursing on the milk made by my breasts, through my once inverted nipples. But to my disappointment, my daughter wouldn’t latch on and she wouldn’t take the milk I pumped either. I did not create a story about what that meant. I am grateful that formula was available.
Over the years, my breasts evolved and so did I, but I still didn’t have a real connection with them. Yes, my nipples were responsive to temperature, but they were not very responsive to touch. If a man asked me if my breasts were sensitive, I would respond, “not really.” And for a long time, that was true.
My formerly inverted nipples were unresponsive to being touched, fondled, or sucked. They did not react to being stroked or pinched. Nothing happened when they were brushed or rubbed.
And then, at age 41, I watched this breast massage video. I started massaging my breasts (and my feet) every single day. I would lather them at length in the shower. I would rub them with lotion. I would hold them while meditating. I would massage them before bed and sometimes first thing in the morning.
My formerly inverted nipples were unresponsive to being touched, fondled, or sucked.
Suddenly, I was in love with my breasts. I could not stop touching them. I found myself holding them in the grocery store, especially on the freezer aisle. I stroked them while dancing. I touched them without thinking. Everywhere, all the time!
And you know what happened next, right?
My nipples became super sensitive and very responsive! I now become aroused when my nipples are licked and caressed.
Even more than that, the more intimate I became with my breasts, the more my heart opened. My conversations became more loving. I allowed myself to be more vulnerable with the people I care about. Intimacy deepened with my family and friends. I made myself more emotionally available in my romantic connections.
This is one of the ways that I learned to make love to me.
I connect with my breasts as a sensual, emotional, and loving practice. I lavish myself with the love and affection that I would offer to another.
I take my time and offer myself pleasure often. I never wear bras at home and I am getting in the habit of going braless in public spaces. Because I feel free when my breasts are not restricted. And freedom is my favorite feeling.
Here are 3 practical reasons why you should begin massaging your breasts:
- Daily massages will help you get familiar with the landscape of your breasts. You will know where the lumps, bumps, and dips are. Which means that you will recognize any noticeable changes.
- Breast massages can stimulate the lymphatic system. And since the lymphatic system is responsible for keeping your bodily fluids flowing properly, it’s just a good idea!
- Massaging your breasts may help you feel sexier and more empowered. You might feel awkward and removed at first. But practice makes better. Showing love to your breasts may help you to accept other parts of yourself.
**Be gentle when your breasts are tender. Particularly during the ovulation and pre-menstrual phases of your cycle.**