Anger management: Are you the person who can’t get angry or won’t get angry
Anger or the rage, the most potent negative emotion which we are well aware, many times we become its slave and at times a strict master who can control it. Anger has excellent power to accomplish things, but little did we know the destructive force that it has on our minds.
Learn the art of controlling anger before it controls you!
Once there was a small boy who had a habit of frequently getting angry against everyone whom he comes in contact.
Even a slight provocation would make him angry. He had a habit of hurting everyone in his anger.
Anger itself has become a part of his life and the more the habit sunk deeper in him, the more he repelled people away from him.
His father felt very bad for his son and wanted to help him, so one day he called him and asked his reason for the anger.
The son replied that he really does not understand the cause of his anger, but he felt awful after the incident has passed over and he felt really sorry for his actions.
His father asked his son to bring a wooden board, a bag full of nails and a hammer. His father instructed him to put a nail in the wooden board with the hammer every time he got angry.
The small boy could not understand how this would help him cure his anger, but he obliged.
The very first day he had to nail at least 10 nails. He felt that it was easy to get angry than to hit the nail in the wooden board.
Days passed, and the number of nails in the wooden board started reducing consistently, finally, he was able to control his anger, and his character had changed.
One day he told his father, he was no longer becoming angry and had changed immensely and thanked his father. His father told him to bring the wooden board. He asked his son to pull all the nails from the wooden board which he had punched in out of his anger.
After the nails had been pulled out from the wooden board, the father asked his son to look at the wooden board and asked him what it meant.
The son could not understand but told him that there were nail marks all over the wooden board even after the nails had been removed.
His father told him it was easy to get angry, but the scar left by this anger cannot be erased. We hurt many people around us by getting mad at them for small issues, the issues that could be solved by being calm but after the period of anger has passed the emotional scar that we leave on them is still there.
We can be sorry for what we had done, but people seldom forget our anger easily, so it is wise not to become angry and practice to maintain a calm state of mind.
“Anger thrills but kills.”
Anger Disorder:
Continuous release of the stress hormones that accompany anger can destroy neurons in areas of the brain associated with judgment and short-term memory,
Anger can weaken the immune system.
The established myth of Letting go of our Anger:
Well established studies say that this is a dangerous myth. Research has found that “letting it pierce” with anger actually multiplies anger and aggression and does nothing to help you or the person you’re angry with in resolving the situation.
It’s best to find out what sparks your anger, and then develop strategies to keep those impulses from tipping you over the edge.
What can you do to control your anger?
Practice relaxation exercises like deep breathing.Cognitive restructuring- Changing the way you think, overcoming your periodic negative emotions like cursing, excessive whining, slowly feeling that all situations are not dangerous as it is imagined or understanding that people are not that bad as it was envisioned.
Building the practice of deep awareness through Mediation, Yoga etc.
A consistent method of reducing stress every day by listening to Music, taking a walk and pursuing a hobby.
Reducing the time spent in front of Social Media and cultivating the habit of listening to real people.
The reversal:
Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behaviour.
Sometimes anger is good for corrective action and makes things happen which otherwise would have been not possible when we are in a pleasant state, but we need to understand that the negative implications of anger far outweigh the positive results.
Never be a person who cannot get angry rather be a person who won’t get angry.
Thanks for reading…
What do think about your anger ?
