Conventional vs Unconventional

Most people associate being comfortable with being able to avoid the responsibility, let themselves off the hook and let others make tough calls and lead the way.

They don’t want to be the first in something, they don’t want to make fools of themselves and be laughed at, they want others to test the uncharted waters first and then, maybe they’ll follow.

That’s why they’ll never try something that’s risky.

If they ever try new things it’s after it has been tested by someone else and approved as “acceptable / ridicule-proof”. And they will make everything in their power to hold on to their comfort zones.

They might have heard the saying that life begins at the end of our comfort zones but comfort zones aren’t called comfort zones for no reason. It’s comfortable to stay in those zones.

They believe that the future can be harnessed by staying in their comfort zones, that if they conduct their lives as scripted they’ll know what the future will hold for them.

Better still, they’ve seen it with their own eyes. Not once, not twice, but a hundred times at least. They’ve been able to watch their parents, their friends’ parents, their relatives and neighbors. They all serve as living proofs — they’ve been conducting their lives as scripted and they knew what the future will be like for them.

  • Excel at school and you’ll be rewarded by your parents and teachers.
  • Pick a good profession (one that offers a good chance for a stable and well-paying job).
  • Graduate and start the climb up the ladder of your career.
  • Go on vacation at a specified time of the year.
  • Have a “normal” life (read: don’t stand out too much).
  • Look at the people around you and do the same things as they’re doing but aim to be better than them (read: have / buy all the things that they have but make sure that the things you have / buy are more and better).
  • Retire at the predetermined age and give up on yourself because, as they say, “Now it’s time for young people to take over the world.”.
  • Get an insurance that’ll pay for your funeral.
  • Die.
  • Lie in an open casket as your relatives pay their farewell to your life and think where exactly are they on their path to the grave (one more time they can relax because they know exactly how everything will play out for them — the only thing that they can’t be certain of is when will their end come).

Now, compare that to the unconventional path.

  • You are doing something that only few other people are doing (chances are you have never met them in person).
  • You are being told that you should trust in your journey and learn as much as possible through first-hand experiences. That there is no script. That those who pretend to possess the map that you can follow to the letter in your life are most probably possessed themselves or are nothing but scammers.
  • You are being told that the moment you feel comfortable you should look for ways to expand, find something that’d scare you and do it — ideally you should do it every single day which means that your comfort zone practically speaking is nonexistent (or that your comfort zone free life should be something that you should be comfortable with).
  • You carve your own path, one that was never travelled before which means that you can never be certain what that future will be like for you.
  • By no means your life can be viewed as “normal”.
  • You are being told that whenever you find yourself doing the very things that others are also doing it should alarm you — “Am I following the flock?”.
  • You have a completely different worldview than the rest of people you know.
  • You don’t care at all how you fare compared to your friends, relatives and neighbors, what new car or TV set they’ve bought, or to which school they’ve sent their kids, when will you retire (whether they’ll change the age at which you can retire) or whether the funeral expenses are already paid for.
  • At the funerals that you attend you wonder what would the ideas or plans be in your life that, if not acted on, will cause regrets in your life.

It’s pretty easy to say which will be the first choice of most people now and in 100 years.


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