The problem with the advice to my 20-year-old self

Such advice is useless.

I’ll never be 20 years old again, will I?

So, what’s the point?

What’s the purpose (if any), if I will not be able to benefit from it?

Besides, would my 20-year-old self listen, given that we’re at two very different points in our lives?

In other words, if I can give myself this advice 20 years later, what’s the point?

Since I give it today, is there a chance I could have been exposed to this advice earlier?

It’s really about the thought process. I’m grateful that it started.

Those who ask themselves a lot of questions and who take the time to think about their lives tend to give advices to 20-year-old versions of themselves.

Those who just go through the motions, they will never do it.

The point is I’ve started the process of self-improvement some time ago and now I am capable of making those suggestions, coming up with those thoughts, offering this advice.

But, can it change anything? Can anything in my past be different?

Can I time travel to year 1997 and apply this advice to my life?

Of course, I can’t.

There is a teacher but is there a student?

No, the student is supposed to be my 20-year-old self (and this guy is gone), and I’m not even sure if this earlier version of me would be willing to listen to what I have to say in 2017.

Maybe my 20-year-old self would have told me to go f*ck myself and would have done what he thought was right?

I can’t even have regrets because of what I did. I did something I thought was right. I didn’t know any better than to do what all my high school peers did and go the conventional career building path.

Giving advice to my 20-year-old self is a bullshit idea.

The only thing I can do right now is make sure that my 40-year-old self will use that wisdom and act accordingly. It’s only now when I can act on the knowledge I have now. Not 20 years back.

And my 20-year-old self? He doesn’t even exist, so what’s the point calling out for him?


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