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I Love You But, I’m Not in Love With You Anymore

Yana Bostongirl
Catharsis Chronicles
3 min readMar 10, 2025

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A young woman with a serene expression holds a lavish bouquet of blue and white flowers.
You and I were never meant to be: Source

The first time my ex-boyfriend asked me out, I playfully told him he had to come and find me at the mall where I’d be shopping that afternoon. If he did, then I’d have coffee with him.

Since this was during the pandemic we all wore masks. So, not an easy feat.

But he was determined. He drove down to the sprawling clothing store. and though he made a few wrong turns mistaking other women for me, he finally found me.

We had coffee and many more after that.

One may think I was playing games, but dating was more like testing the waters. After a complicated divorce that took over a year to finalize, I wasn’t sure what I was looking for or what I’d find, and I wasn’t about to make it easy.

My ex-boyfriend always said it was love at first sight for him.

I’ve often wondered if he confused lust with love. On the bright side, he was kind to me, knowing of my past — always respectful, and supportive. In that way, he was constant. But he was never fully present because work always came first.

For me, it was the chase — the initial excitement —…

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Catharsis Chronicles
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Catharsis Chronicles is a haven for impassioned stories on family, love, trauma, healing, redemption, self-awareness, and holistic health.

Yana Bostongirl
Yana Bostongirl

Written by Yana Bostongirl

✨A memoir in motion, no script, just life| Blogger with a quirky Indian American flavor🌶️| Owner of Good Vibes Club publication💫 & The Heritage Pub 🪔