Loving Harder Won’t Make Them Stay

Why I Changed Instead of Trying to Fix Him

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I loved. Oh, how hard I loved.

I knew he was what I needed. I knew I could make him happy, not just emotionally, but mentally and physically — fulfill his every desire.

I thought loving harder, going all out, falling on my knees would make him stay.

Some might say that’s not the way to love. Blinding yourself silly to all the red flags and an uncertain future. That’s not love. That’s desperation disguised as devotion.

But I have a secret.

It may not be popular opinion, but it’s what I live by.

If you were to venture into the dating arena in the US — and you are a man, say an older, non caucasian man who’s also not exactly strong in the looks department — then that’s already three strikes against you.

That’s the truth.

Sure, you could have a killer personality, a sense of humor, a heart of gold, and moves like Jagger — but all that only matters after you get your foot in the door.

And younger women? They have their pick. They can afford to write out a long list of “must-haves” on their bio and wait until someone ticks every single box before even looking your way.