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You Didn’t Choose Your Family’s Patterns
but you can choose to break them…
Rituals. Ancestors. Generations. Traditions.
These are the pillars that remind us that there is no story without our history, no present without our past. Who we are today is really just an amalgamation of our previous generations’ beliefs, choices, and circumstances.
The truth is that along with carrying their facial features, we also consciously or unconsciously inherit their fears, conflicts, and way of life.
But not everything passed down is meant to be kept. While some parts of our past strengthen our identity, other generational patterns are simply the worst.
Hear me out: Passed from one generation to the next, some beliefs go so unnoticed, they become part of our ‘normal’ for as long as we can remember, no matter how unhealthy they are.
The worst part?
Sometimes it often takes a lifetime to learn to unlearn these unhealthy inherent patterns. Do you know why? Because those greatest examples of toxicity are cleverly disguised as ‘traditions’.
One of the worst and most common generation patterns I’ve observed: Coddling the younger ones in the name of ‘love’.