10 Ways To Better Love The Avoidant-Attachment In Your Life
We actually make fantastic partners if we have a partner who is willing to understand our needs.
My name is Kathy and I’m an Avoidant-Attachment.
Recently I was asked to write a poem on the theme, A Brief History Of Belonging. I’m always up for a challenging prompt, but this one I particularly struggled with. Obviously the prompt was open to interpretation and could have been steered in a myriad of different directions, except, I kept getting stuck on my own history of belonging — or more to the point, lack thereof.
Belonging, to me, is a warm word; one I associate with connection and bonding and nurturing and being grounded in love. It is a word I have grieved as long as I can recall; a word I have wanted to own for myself but one which I did not experience in an upbringing rooted in dysfunction, abuse and neglect.
As I thought more about the prompt I considered the foundation of belonging, which led me to attachment theory — the theory that humans are born with a need to form a close emotional bond with a caregiver. How the caregiver responds to the infant’s need for emotional connection in their formative years will determine their attachment style later in life.
