Don’t Look for Hope, Create It

You have hindsight. You have growth. You have the freedom it can bring.

The Good Men Project
Change Becomes You

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By Andrea Wilburn

Pain and trauma are an inherent part of existence. But there are times when they exaggerate their power within you. They become more and more of a deception instead of the reality they were when the pain happened.

Pain and trauma weigh you down to a specific point in time. But you are not that child, that adolescent, that version of the adult you were at the time. You are here. You are now. You are not the same person you were when you were bullied or otherwise victimized. You have hindsight. You have growth. You have the freedom it can bring.

Pain and trauma tell you that you are defined by powerlessness. Hatefulness tells you that it is bigger, angrier, and stronger than you. But hatefulness was never about you. It was about someone else’s pain and trauma. It was about someone else who felt so small and so powerless that they resorted to destructiveness against you. They felt like they didn’t have the power to stand up to who hurt them so they took a stand in their powerlessness against you, never knowing who you are because they are too lost in lies of powerlessness about their own self.

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The Good Men Project
Change Becomes You

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