Life Lessons From a Former Homeless Person

Sadie Morghan
Oct 7, 2020 · 6 min read
Photo Credit: The prefers to be anonymous boyfriend who always has a blanket ready for me

Every story you hear about homelessness starts the same way: Drugs, substance abuse, mental illness. These are the tropes we cling to, anchors that say this was their fault. That can’t happen to me. I work too hard, I try too much. Homeless people get what they deserve. I won’t end up like that. Not me.

I’m one of those people homelessness happened to. The week I graduated high school I was tossed out of my family. I was a good student who had already signed a contract to go into the military. I was still discarded and left to fend for myself in downtown LA. I was 18 years old and scared out of my mind. I learned a few things during that time that stay with me till this day.

1. If Someone Offers You Something for Nothing, There’s a Catch in There.

Oh, and if you ever wondered why a homeless person refused unwrapped food from you? Now you know why. People like messing with the homeless, because who’s going to complain?

2. Don’t Judge People Just On What You See.

3. Some People Are Assholes. Because They Can Be.

4. But Most People Are Kind

5. Everyone Needs A Place To Belong

6. Everyone Needs To Be Seen

At night we’d sometimes huddle together. After dark she was quiet, without the bravado of her days. Once I asked her why she was so very loud, so happy and free.

She sighed and told me “this is the only way I’ll ever be seen.” Min just wanted to be seen as a human again, for a single moment.

7. Be Damned Grateful For What You Got

8. Prepare For The Unexpected

9. Life Changes You. Be Grateful For That.

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Sadie Morghan

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Writer and student of life and its beautiful mysteries. Drinker of beer, coffee and herder of machines. I write to make you both feel and think.

Change Becomes You

Life advice that will (actually) change your life. Curated stories from The Good Men Project.

Sadie Morghan

Written by

Writer and student of life and its beautiful mysteries. Drinker of beer, coffee and herder of machines. I write to make you both feel and think.

Change Becomes You

Life advice that will (actually) change your life. Curated stories from The Good Men Project.

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