My Best Response to People Who Get Easily Offended

Take your power back with this quick response.

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I don’t want to offend you, but…

He gazed at me longingly across the table, and I could see he was fumbling with a thought he couldn’t quite formulate. It was our first date and conversation had flowed easily until this moment. Curiosity kicked in, and I gave him an inquisitive look.

He deflected by commenting on the creme brûlée we were sharing, and then he put his spoon down and said what he was really thinking.

“I don’t want to offend you, but you just look so beautiful tonight. I’m sorry if that upsets you.”

I love compliments. A friend once said you can compliment a man once, and it will last him a lifetime. But women want to be complimented every day. Multiple times.

That is so true. I never tire of it. It’s wonderful to hear that my efforts are recognized and appreciated. So bring it on.

Later, that man said he regretted the last time he gave a compliment. He told a woman she had a beautiful smile while waiting in line at the DMV. She lashed out at him, saying that his comment was unwelcome and not to say another word to her.