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People Will Always Reveal Who They Are in New Relationships
The importance of detached observation & acting on red flags.
‘When people show you who they are, believe them the first time….’
Quote by Maya Angelou
Your partner will slowly but surely reveal yourself — your job is to trust what is being revealed
What I am going to write about in this article is not particularly innovative or new. Even the quote above has been used abundantly online in a variety of settings, posts, articles and blogs. But there is a reason for that — it is an ingeniously simple and accurate line.
The idea of believing what we are seeing is in theory so simple and accessible that it can be a game-changer in relationships- but only if you choose to act on it.
Who would not want to observe and learn about the person that they are dating? Yes, it may seem as though I am stating the obvious, but every month I see at least a few people in my Psychology practice who ask questions such as ‘But how would I know if someone is good for me’ or ‘They seemed so good to start with, is it not worth waiting to see if things return to being good again?’
