Self-Sabotage Is Not Self-Punishment

The psychology behind these misunderstood words

Annie Tanasugarn, PhD
Oct 16 · 7 min read
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“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.”

~Alyce Cornyn-Selby

The Psychology Behind Sabotage & Punishment

Early Life Shapes Our Beliefs and Behavior

A Word of Caution

If it is punishing to a person, it is not likely to continue.

If it is sabotaging to a person, it is likely to continue.

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Annie Tanasugarn, PhD

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Psychologist. Behavior Analyst. Habit builder. Insight creator. Self mastery maker. #INFJ. Seeker of the perfect latte. Emo & hard rock girl. 🎸☕

Change Becomes You

Life advice that will (actually) change your life. Curated stories from The Good Men Project.

Annie Tanasugarn, PhD

Written by

Psychologist. Behavior Analyst. Habit builder. Insight creator. Self mastery maker. #INFJ. Seeker of the perfect latte. Emo & hard rock girl. 🎸☕

Change Becomes You

Life advice that will (actually) change your life. Curated stories from The Good Men Project.

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