The Psychology of the Wasteman

Jason Henry
Change Becomes You
Published in
6 min readNov 17, 2023

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Swiss psychologist Carl Jung said that children are driven unconsciously to compensate for what their parents failed to experience. This is why pastors’ kids are often hornballs.

To be fair, anything one represses can end up exploding in one’s face. But in principle, I agree.

What did my father fail to experience? In my opinion, while he enjoyed some success, he failed to cement a legacy because he was too focused on gratification.

I have tried to steer clear of this, and yet, I feel the same temptation.

So even though I studied more and devoted myself more to my craft and my values, I worried about not starting from the top because I feared being stuck at the bottom.

And so to avoid this, I did nothing, which definitely kept me at the bottom all because I was too focused on gratification.

As Jung put it, “an irresponsible wastrel of a father has a son with a positively morbid amount of ambition.”

I wouldn’t call my dad an irresponsible wastrel, that’s going too far. But why would a man be an “irresponsible wastrel”?

It’s because the pressure to succeed is believed to be too great. No one is born a wasteman.

A wasteman was once a boy with interests but I believe he learnt to never…

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Jason Henry
Change Becomes You

Former Edu. Psychologist | Current Writer | Constant Learner | “By your stumbling the world is perfected.”