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Change Becomes You

Tiktok: Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Before Posting

Some aren’t nice. Some are even worse.

Like millions of others, I love Tiktok. Frankly, it’s just a fun and entertaining platform to enjoy, especially at the end of the day when so many of us adult Tiktokers feel spent. We decompress to Tiktok and maybe even get caught up in it a little. Some of us young-at-heart have joined the creative Tiktok contingent…me being one of them although I am not that good, admittedly. Don’t look for my account, it sucks. (For those who must, @laura_j_wellington)

That being said, a thought came up the other day that I wanted to share with fellow creators. It happened during a moment when I was…well…ticked (otherwise known as really angry about something). I created a Tiktok video addressing the incident in the heat of the moment. I titled it appropriately, hashtagged it perfectly, then uploaded it with the simple tap of an icon.

Within seconds, it was posted. I felt a sense of relief, the completion of this process enlisting this feeling in me. I began to come down from my anger as a result. But then it hit me and I asked the question: “Was sharing this moment with my fellow Tiktokers going to make the issue driving my anger — the one that needed to be solved — better or worse; or was keeping it private between me and the other person ultimately going to be more effective in finding concrete resolution?”

I quickly deleted the video. I felt better, but the entire incident made me wonder how many otherTiktok creators forgo ever considering this question prior to posting or afterwards for th at matter. Sometimes, “freedom to do” doesn’t always mean that you should.

Just one of many, I think Tiktok creators also need to consider a variety of additional questions as they are embrace their creative juices, including whether they should include their children in their videos. There are hoards of adorable kids doing all kinds of wonderful and funny things on Tiktok but the downside of that — in the form of predators — could be enormous. As could the unwanted attention of stalkers, rapists, and perverts who misinterpret single Tiktokers videos as open invitations into their lives and homes. I think today, even police officers need to be concerned with how much they post on the platform or passionate political voices who may truly not realize how far mentally unstable outliers will go to quiet what or whom they don’t agree with. These are but a few thoughts to ponder prior to posting any Tiktok video.

I’m not trying to be a kill-joy here; nor am I being critical. I just would hate to read about something tragic, well-beyond an upsetting comment here or there, happening to a Tiktok creator simply because he or she did not stop to think. Consider it the “mama bear” in me, I guess.

In any event, all I am saying is, “Give my words and these questions a thought before you create and post.” Maybe, one or two even. If the answer you come up with after you do amounts to a green light, post away. I will be watching as will every conceivable character on the planet too (keep it in mind). If it doesn’t, post something less invasive and a bit safer. There are plenty of topics and instances to create a video around without risking what you can’t afford to lose. Remember, as each of these social media platforms evolve, upping the opportunity to become ever more personal with your audience so goes your individual risk.



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Laura Wellington

Laura Wellington


Founder of ZNEEX app, TEDx Speaker, Award-winning children’s entertainment creator, Author,,,