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Change Becomes You

What Not to Say to Grieving People

What we so desire to be healing can so easily make it worse.

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By John Pavlovitz

When my father died, people around me tried to help me.

They saw my total, alarming devastation, and in their urgency to alleviate some of it, did what good people do when other people they care for are grieving: they said things.




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