What’s healthy about masculinity? (This article is meat-free)

Lau Ciocan
Change Becomes You
Published in
4 min readNov 9, 2020

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Recently I published an article about the toxic traits of masculinity. If you didn’t have the chance to read it you can catch up here.

In the article I talked about the “ugly” stuff, like the emphasis on physical strength, controlling behaviour or that men avoid non-sexual physical touch from other male friends from a very young age.

But is there anything wholesome about masculinity?

In the search for the “holy grail” of how to express masculinity in healthy ways, there is the tendency to slip back into the same mindset we try to avoid — that it is a prescriptive way to express healthy manhood.

If there is one thing I have learned is that masculinity is a spectrum and comes in many shapes and sizes, that we can even speak about masculinities.

Below are four traits that I’ve learned over the past years in my own journey of defining healthy manhood.

They are not necessarily exclusive about men, but I wanted to share them as they are not the “usual suspects” and are a good start for one’s journey of healthy masculinities. So here we go.

A shift of focus

As a result of transitioning from boyhood to manhood, I realised that life is less about me, my success…

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Lau Ciocan
Change Becomes You

Founder of MAN - a shortlisted platform for the 'Best Men's Health Initiative' promoting healthy masculinities & men's mental health. manmentoring.org.uk