10 Simple New Year’s Resolution Ideas For a Clearer Mindset
Take care of your mind and the rest will follow
Yesterday I was wallowing in self-pity. I was feeling terribly anxious. I couldn’t get out of bed. The root of my anxiety came from realizing I lost control of my life.
I’m going through a traumatic break up with little to nothing in my bank account. I had only 7 dollars on me. I lost my independence in this relationship and suffered a lot of trauma as a victim of narcissistic abuse.
I was resenting myself for having lost control of my life, for being codependent on another person, letting another person treat me the way they did and letting myself get to this place of ultimate unhappiness.
This morning I woke up and refused to have another day like yesterday again. Yesterday was so bad to the point that it felt like ending it all would be much easier than living on.
When you experience negative emotions please remember you DO have control. You have CONTROL over your THOUGHTS and these thoughts become emotions.
Emotions are physiological changes in the body. These physiological changes come from our thoughts and so our body experiences what we tell it through our thoughts.
Life is too precious and nothing is ever the end of the world. I changed my thinking process and focused on gratitude. It is not easy when you are in a negative state feeling helplessness but it’s doable. It takes a lot of energy to do so just like physical exercise. Changing your mindset requires effort.
The mind can be both our best friend and our worst enemy.
What I Did
After sleeping the whole day I got up and said “okay let’s snap out of it.” I was harsh with myself as a fitness trainer might be with their client.
I said to myself “okay Sajeta snap out of it — you have family and a best friend to support you financially— it’s not the end of the world —be grateful you still have a roof over your head and food to feed yourself— enough is enough — sleeping all day in bed in self-pity won’t solve anything — you will figure out how to get out of this but for now let’s clean this room.”
Sometimes you need to talk to yourself in third person to get yourself out of a negative slump because it gives you perspective over your emotions. You have to be your own best friend.
I decluttered as I was listening to fun light-hearted videos on YouTube so that the next morning I could wake up to a cleaner environment.
After that, I wrote down some motivational notes for myself to wake up to. I believed these positive messages could filter into my subconscious mind first thing in the morning which then may aid in reducing any financial distress that was to follow.
The notes read: “Good morning Sajeta, smile everything is going to be okay. It’s not the end of the world. Remember gratitude! Don’t forget to meditate. The universe has your back. A new day, a new you. Breathe in, breathe out.”
10 New Year’s Resolution Ideas For a Clearer Mindset
So here are 10 new year’s resolution ideas or self care tips that I will be implementing for a clearer mindset to prevent myself from any more negative slumps.
- Start a meditation practice. Meditation is not easy and that is why avoided it. I realize now it’s better to practice centering myself and breathing for at least 10 seconds a day then not do it at all. It doesn’t matter how long you do it, just do it. Start small and then work your way up to a few minutes and maybe someday you could for an hour. Mantra or guided meditation found on YouTube are my favorites. Experiment with a few and see what works for you. Meditate every day at morning and at night.
- Write positive messages to yourself to wake up to. This doesn’t have to be a nightly thing but at least weekly write down messages you want to wake up to. These can be affirmations also. Tell yourself you are great! Once your mind reads it then it’ll believe it. Visually seeing these messages and reading it to yourself will weaken that inner critic of yours.
- Read more. My goal is to read one fiction (educational), one non-fiction, and one self-development book per month. Make use of commute time or even just a few pages in the morning or at night will do. Reading is great because you get to expand your knowledge and release yourself from present worries. You don’t need to have a goal of reading a specific number of books per month like me. The goal is to feed your brain with extra knowledge when you can. Just reading a page a day is enough if you are really busy.
- Get moving and exercise more. A gym membership is not required to start moving. Just go for a daily walk whenever you can. Follow fitness Youtubers and follow along with their free workouts on YouTube. If you see stairs and an escalator why not take the stairs once in a while? Try to get in 10, 000 steps a day. Just try to move more because exercise really helps mental health.
- Eat healthier but don’t stress about it. Don’t restrict yourself. I know eating healthier is probably on everyone’s new year’s resolution list. The difference is I don’t want to feel guilty for binge eating anymore or restrict myself by cutting out all junk food. I will strive to be more mindful of what I am putting in my body and make sure I balance my eating habits with both junk food and healthy food.
- Cook more. If you want to eat healthier then cooking more will help. You can find delicious healthy recipes for free online. Several food bloggers are out there to follow. Sometimes I even Google “5-ingredient healthy meals” because I don’t have the time to spend a lot of time in the kitchen. Also, if you’re like me you can experiment and make your own meals. Once you start making healthier delicious meals for yourself you won’t feel like cooking is a chore and it’d be much easier to eat better too.
- Learn more. You want to start investing? Start making passive income? Or just learn another language? Anything that will require you to flex your mind muscle let’s do it! I usually Google what I want to learn and type in “free” and then a variety of free courses pop up. Duolingo is a great place to start to learn a language for free. There are several free online courses you can take and complete on your own time. Spending 20 minutes a day learning something new is great!
- Journal. Do you ever feel like you are trying to tell someone your problems but they’re just not listening? Well a journal will never do that to you. We often pour our heart out and vent about our problems to a friend because we just want to release. Why not do that on paper or on your laptop to an inanimate piece of paper/word document instead? This way you won’t feel hurt if the other person seems to not care, not understand or not listen.
- Practice gratitude daily. As I said before gratitude is really important for refocusing our negative thought pattern and re-centering our thoughts. Show gratitude for even small things like living in a time and place where we have laptops and internet or having a comfortable bed to sleep in. Something as simple as that could slightly change your mood for the better. As you keep adding more to the gratitude list you will see yourself feeling better.
- Stop procrastinating by implementing smaller habitual changes in your life. Break down bigger goals or to-do items into smaller chunks. If you have to pay so many bills at once try paying a bill at a time. Big goals or to-do items can feel overwhelming which is why we might procrastinate doing them. Breaking them down into smaller tasks will have us feeling more calm toward the task at hand and so we will feel motivated to getting it done.
Moral of The Story
Hitting rock bottom is hard but you don’t have to stay there. Allow yourself to feel all the negative emotions and then get up and start moving. Talk to yourself in third person and ask yourself, “what are you going to do about it?”
Always keep in mind emotions are physiological changes in the body. Negative emotions are from feeding the mind negative thoughts. By striving toward a more positive, solution focused mindset we can alter the physiological changes in the body to help us achieve a more positive emotion.
You can rebuild your life wherever you are as long as you learn to be your own best friend first! Taking care of your mind will help you love yourself and the rest will follow.