3 Ancient Stoic Methods to Be Bulletproof Against Toxicity

An antidote for daily struggles

Letters from E.K.
Apr 16 · 3 min read
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life, we face all kinds of situations, and when some of the negative ones start to get repeated, they can turn into toxicity.

When we say toxicity, it can have many meanings, but overall anything that decreases your life quality, whether consciously or unconsciously, can be described as toxic.

That’s why it’s important to know how to be bulletproof against the toxicity we face in daily life and it can be done by following these 3 steps:

1-Learn to let go of expectations

2-Negative Visualisation

3-Differentiate what you can and cannot control

1-Learn to let go of expectations

As a person who always starts everything with high hopes, I’ve come to realize that although hope is needed, it should not overcome one’s whole life. That’s why it’s important to learn to let go of expectations, and it can be achieved by making the conscious choice to let life be.

This is important because when it comes to expectations, although they may feel like they come naturally to us, it actually is our mind making up standards for things as we live.

“Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.” ― Alexander Pope

2-Negative Visualisation

This one technique has helped me the most when it comes to dealing with toxicity. It is also the technique that emperor Marcus Aurelius used to deal with daily businesses that a monarch would face.

At the start of his day, he would tell himself that he was going to meet arrogant, and selfish people and start his day with that on his mind. Then throughout his day, if he met with that situation he would not get as affected as he would have been if he had positive expectations. And if that didn’t happen, he would still be glad about the result.

“Anything that a man is shocked by will hurt him twice as much.” — Stoic Quote

It’s the same for our lives. Maybe we are not dealing with the politics of empires but we still deal with humans, and it is not so much different than that.

“Whenever someone has done wrong by you, immediately consider what notion of good or evil they had in doing it. For when you see that, you’ll feel compassion, instead of astonishment or rage. For you may yourself have the same notions of good and evil, or similar ones, in which case you’ll make an allowance for what they’ve done. But if you no longer hold the same notions, you’ll be more readily gracious for their error.” — Marcus Aurelius

3-Differentiate what you can and cannot control

It is not easy to accept the fact that some things are out of our control but it actually is a life-saver truth. The only things we can control are our minds and actions, and everything except these two are not in our ability to control. So when you are faced with a situation that is not within your control, to punish yourself by getting affected by it is not fair to you.

Therefore by differentiating what you can and cannot control, you are saving yourself from unnecessary stress that may be caused by things out of your control.

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ― Steve Maraboli

Final thoughts

In daily life, sometimes the situations we face come with toxicity, and learning how to be bulletproof against them is important.

To achieve that, there are 3 steps to follow:

1-Learn to let go of expectations

2-Negative Visualisation

3-Differentiate what you can and cannot control

Thank you for reading.

-E.K.

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