4 Easy Tricks to Be More Charming in Conversations
Lessons from a behavioral expert
By Destiny Femi
Vanessa Van Edwards is the head researcher at The Science of People. A major part of what they do is observe human behavior and come up with patterns that separate the best from the worst conversationalists.
As you would expect, after years of research, Vanessa and her team have uncovered some interesting things about human behavior and social interactions. And knowing these things could be a game changer for you even if you’re not good at having great conversations.
They’ve realized that there’s an art to all great conversations. And if you learn it, you could be a master too. That said, here are four key lessons I’ve summarized for you from her experience as a human behavioral expert.
Great conversationalists are masters at giving comfort cues
We all get apprehensive — though to different degrees — about how people perceive us in social interactions, especially if we just met them. This is partly because those we’re unfamiliar with make us feel uncomfortable.
And we often show this discomfort through our anxiety. The phenomenon psychologists call The Mere-Exposure Effect throws more light on this…
