5 Signs To Know You Are Doing Better Than You Think
These are a few signs you are on the right path
Have you ever considered how far you have come in life?
This question can be answered if you measure your progress by reflecting on who you used to be. But unfortunately, most people think they have no time to reflect on their own progress and it causes them to be more focused on negative experiences than positive ones.
Now, it’s easier than before for us to focus on the negative side of ourselves because the impact of social media. We scroll over through it and makes us think that others are doing better and achieving more than us. We are programmed by our own technology to see the grass on our neighbors is greener than our own.
The truth is, what you see is the tip of the iceberg, you have no idea the size underneath the surface.
Instead of focusing on a wonderful life that someone has on social media, you can switch your focus to recognize a few good signs within you.
Here are some signs to know you are doing better than you think.
1. You Make Small Progress Every Day
“Progress is not achieved by luck or accident, but by working on yourself daily.”
You replace your old habits with better ones even if you don’t feel like it. You start exercising, reading books, eating healthy food, sleeping early, learning new skills every day, going to a new place, meeting a new circle, and launching a product.
You step out of your comfort zone by making small progress even if it doesn’t feel comfortable at the beginning but deep inside you know, this is the right thing to do. If you already do a few of these habits, it gives signal that you are better than you think.
Doing something uncomfortable that means you improve, just remember comfort and growth do not coexist.
So, if you think by doing the same thing repetitively will make you grow, it’s not. You grow once you step out of your routine. Albert Einstein once said, “Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.”
You don’t have to start with a big thing at first, just do tiny improvements every day will make you better than most people. All big things are an accumulation from a small step.
If you already work on yourself to make tiny progress every day, you don’t need to worry about your future because what habits you do daily will decide what your future looks like.
2. You Feel Connected With a Few People In Your Life
“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.”
Let’s be honest how many friends do you have that are able to listen and understand you? Yes, I’m pretty sure, they are not many.
However, the truth is that you don’t need to have a dozen of friends. You just only need a few friends with a sense of deep connection.
Instead of having a hundred friends with shallow conversations, it’s better to have a small circle with deep conversations.
Research from Harvard Medical School proves that the key to happiness is having a meaningful relationship with someone you associate with. If you have a few people in your life with a deep connection, it’s not only a sign you are doing better, but also that you are more blessed than you think you are.
3. You Remove Negative People from Your Life
“You can’t heal in the same environment that made you sick.”
Sometimes the thing that holds you back is not yourselves, but your friends. There are two types of friends who respond while you change: first, they support you to get better, and second, they judge you no matter how far you come.
Yes, it’s a wonderful feeling when you cut off toxic people from your life that has no longer served you. You will feel happier, confident, and comfortable in your own skin.
The way you interact with people is the same as the way you taste the food, you know what kind of food you like or dislike by tasting it and you also know what kind of people you want to spend time with or not by feeling their energy. Do they drain you or recharge you? We all know this feeling, but sometimes we keep those toxic people staying a little bit longer.
The truth is you won’t get better if you only keep those who drain your energy, leave them alone because that’s the only way you get better.
Robin William once said “I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.”
Never settle for the less even if your friendship is built for a decade. It’s never been worth spending your time and energy with people who denial to change.
4. You Say “No” to Others
“It’s only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”
Saying “No” is not an act of arrogance, it’s an act of self-care. You know what activities or people you care about the most, so you can give your time and energy to things that really matter.
You think by saying “No” will hurt other people, the truth is, it can hurt but at least people know what you stand for.
It’s none of your business people will be disappointed. The most important thing is you don’t disappoint yourselves. You say “No” to things that against your value regardless other people like it or not. Saying “No” is a sign that you move ahead more than anyone else.
By saying “No” you teach other people how to treat you. Never blame others if they treat you like shit because you are the one who allows them to treat you like shit as Mahatma Gandhi have been said, “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet”.
Saying “No” to others will define who you are and who you are not.
5. You Ask For Help
“You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.”
Life will be simpler when you put your ego aside and start asking for help. Be honest to yourself that you are not good at everything and there’s no shame in asking for help in certain areas where you suck about.
Never pretend that you are fine all the time, we all have flaws and it doesn’t go away if we try to handle them on our own. Your burden feels lighter when you ask for help.
Instead of struggling by yourself, you ask for help by opening your heart.
If you already use your heart by communicating with others that means you are more courageous than most people around you.
Sometimes the answer is not about how long for you to heal, but how you do with the time you have.