6 Lessons Most People Learn Too Late in Life
In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years. — Abraham Lincoln
Time moves so quickly while we are busy preparing our future until we realize the only experience we have is starting right now.
This hustle culture makes us difficult to stop for a moment and be present with our loved ones regardless of what’s job or business we are in.
We live in an era that forces us to think far ahead despite what happens around us.
Life can change in a moment. It can change before you blink your eyes. It can be better or worse. So, never waste your time waiting until reality hit you in the face.
Here are some essential life lessons that you should learn early in life before it’s too late.
1. Don’t Take Anything for Granted
Most people think that everything they have is permanent, so they take everything for granted. This includes your friends, job, family, possession, and health. Yes, all of these are belonged to you but they don’t mean to be forever.
Often, we forget to appreciate what we have until they are gone. We make the wrong choice to prioritize something unworthy over the truly worthy.
Good things and bad things always come unexpectedly as part of life, there’s a moment when your best friend stays or leaves, your job’s contract extends or cuts, your parents take care of you or not anymore.
You get one life and short life, so make the best of it while you can.
“The secret is to never lose sight of the simple, everyday miracles in life. Good food, literature, laughter, music, compelling conversation, nature, and art. Look for them in every day, and even when it feels like your whole world is unraveling, you will never be too far from a needle and thread.”
2. Don’t Be Afraid to Take Risk
We have a goal in any area of our life such as our relationship, career, business, or anything. But the truth is if you always do what you have ever done, you always be who you have always been. Time will get you nowhere, once you do not take any risks.
Risk is the price you pay if you want to get your goal, you risk yourself little by little towards unfamiliar and uncertainty to move closer to your goal. You make some tiny progress on daily basis by stepping outside your comfort zone.
When you risk yourself, you start growing and gaining confidence to take a bigger risk. Once you build that tolerance, you become comfortable with discomfort.
Research shows that more people regret things they don’t do than the things they do, even it turns out badly after all.
Never wait until you are old to take a risk, as you get older, you have fewer chances to go after what you want. Leave your excuse behind and take action to become the person you want to be right now.
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
3. Don’t Sacrifice Your Health
Your body is like a car to take you wherever you go and if you don’t take care of it by changing the oil machine, filling it up with fuel, and repairing it when needed, it will be broken sooner or later.
Most young people take their health for granted, they do less exercise, sleep late, drink too much, and eat more junk food until they experience what a real loss feels like when they grow older.
When you don’t protect your health early in life, you should pay more attention to your health when you get older. Never underestimate what you do when you are young will not have an impact as you get old.
Prioritize your health right now, so it will decrease the chances to deal with a health issue when you get older.
“It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.”
4. Money Won’t Solve Everything
We work so hard to get what we want by trading it with money to make us happy. Yes, money solves what we desire such as where vacation we want to go or what expensive car we want to buy. Money makes things in life easier in a certain area.
But there are a few things that money can’t fix regardless of how much money you have. Money can’t fix your relationship, your mental health, or your feeling of loneliness. These things you pay through your attention, energy, time, and patience.
As you grow older, you notice something that makes you happy doesn’t require as much money as you think before. You just only need a simple life, a healthy body, a meaningful relationship, and a true friendship.
What’s the point to have everything you want if you lose something that truly matters?
5. Don’t Try to Please Everyone
The most important relationship you have is not what you have with everyone but the one you have with yourself. If you prioritize other happiness before you put yourself first, you will lose a deep connection with yourself and others.
Never take a risk to become someone else just because you are afraid of what might people say and think of you. The truth is either you become yourself or someone else, there are always people who don’t like you.
You don’t need validation from anyone to make you happy because happiness is within you. It comes from what you believe and what you stand for.
In the end, choosing yourself first is always be the best choice you ever make.
“Trust yourself. Think for yourself. Act for yourself. Speak for yourself. Be yourself. Imitation is suicide.”
6. Don’t Make Any Reflection on Life Experiences
Most people have many experiences that they have been through in life. But experience is just an experience if you don’t reflect on it. Your experiences begin more useful once you stop looking at any mistakes in someone else and start to reflect on your own.
I can’t agree more that we need to learn from others’ experiences, but if you want to let go of you were, to become the person who you wish to be, you need to reflect and learn from your own experiences, not someone else’s.
Be brave to reflect on your past mistake and learn from them, so you will be better in dealing with challenging situations ahead.
“We do not learn from experience…we learn from reflecting on experience.”