A Potential Reason Why They Won’t Commit
You May Not Like This Reality
I feel like we can drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out the how, what, where’s and why our dating experience has gone wrong and why they’ve drifted away.
Maybe they’re emotionally available, traumatised by a past experience and have a fully-fledged avoidant attachment style. We incessently look to diagnose them, as if we’re they’re undercover therapist, despite the fact you’ve only seen them 3 times and know little about the real them.
Maybe they’ve got a lot going on right now. After all, they told you a friend of theirs is going through a hard time so maybe that’s why they’re being distant.
Or maybe they’ve just come out a relationship. All you need to do is wait it out, surely if you’re showing your keenness then they’ll know you’re ready for them when they’re ready for you.
On the contrary, maybe we’re being too keen, and actually the strategy is to fallback and see if taking your cards off the table will in any way make them look back.
Or maybe you regret saying that thing about yourself that you now think has turned them away. Maybe you shouldn’t share your authentic parts, but play it nice and go with the flow. Be the cool girl/guy. The chameleon.
