Be Happy Now, Without a Reason — or You Never Will Be at All
Happiness is the new rich.
When will I be happy?
I grapple, and wrestle with this question every day of my life.
- When I get a thousand followers.
- When I make enough money to quit my job.
- When I start my business.
- When I clear my debt.
- When my babies grow.
- When I solve this nagging problem.
Isn’t that what I have been telling myself for many years? It didn’t even work the last time. How can I even believe this anymore?
If you have been struggling with problems that look like mine, chances are, you are not alone.
Don’t fret. I have good news for you!
When you change how you look at things, the things you look at change — Wayne Dyer
You can still have your happiness cake, and eat it too — and this is available right here, right now.
Happiness is now when the hour begins
If your happiness happens to be placed at the end of a goal, then you probably need to pause, and make a few changes now.
Why wait to eat your happiness cheese later, when it would have melted away with the passing of each moment?
You can be happy each wakeful moment of your life, if you only learn to enjoy the journey, as much as the destination.
When you are deeply connected to each unfolding moment, then you can find reward in the action itself, and not in a future goal. The action becomes the source of happiness, not the expectations, nor the outcome at the end of the action.
An autotelic personality is someone who finds reward in their actions. And this is an attitude that can be learned, and cultivated.
The Taoist thinker Chuang-tzu called the path to find satisfaction and happiness in doing rather than having — Yu. Yu Chuang-Tzu says, is the way people should live — without concern for external reward.
Nothing in the world is permanent, and we’re foolish when we ask anything to last, but surely we’re still more foolish not to take delight in it while we have it — Somerset Maugham.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination
In the movie Peaceful Warrior, Socrates tells Dan Millman that he had something great, he wanted him to see.
The subject of attention was at the top of a mountain. All through the climbing journey, Dan is excited, he cannot wait to see what Socrates had for him.
The excitement soon melts away when Socrates points to a stone at the top of the mountain. Dan is deeply disappointed.
The stone represents the temporary, fleeting, changing nature of the shiny things we keep chasing, and holding on to. Those things that place a huge blocker on our path to happiness.
Sadly, most of us live our lives like Dan. We hold on living only for our hope to shattered to pieces at the end of the journey. Like Dan, we become disappointed, and let down over, and over again. What a tragedy!
Don’t wait to live, live now
Repeat the following statements to yourself, until the words melt, and blends into your fabric of being:
- There is no way to happiness because happiness is the way.
- I will not wait for circumstances to be perfect in order to be happy.
- I will be happy without a reason.
- Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
- Happiness is now when the hour begins.
- Happiness is experiencing, and fully engaging with each moment of my life without labeling, or judging.
- I am never too late to turn on the light of happiness which is always accessible here now — this very moment.
- True happiness happens when I let go of the unnecessary, instead of the often default state of accumulating more, and more materials things.
- My happiness is dependent on my quality of consciousness. I will be aware of what I focus my attention on.
- The difference between happiness, and misery depends on what I do with my attention — my psychic energy.
- Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if only I remember to turn on the light.
- I fail to see the opportunities for happiness that lies in front of me when I am caught in the wrong beliefs of what form happiness should look take.